Dating a single mom? - vs +

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Dating a single mom? - vs +
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Fri, 04-22-2005 - 10:27pm

So i met this 27 year old attractive woman. Im aware through a source she has a 7 year old son. I have never dated a single mom, so i would be new to this. Most guys, this is a red flag and should be avoided. I notice she likes attention at work from guys, as guys flock to her every single minute. She just feeds off it. She knows she gots it physically, and seems to play games with these guys. I talk to her one day, then ignore her the next trying not to seem desperate as the other guys. I dont know a single moms lifestyle. Does she go out alot on weekends? Is she more responsible? She mature faster? Has being a single mom changed her in any way?

Suggestions?

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 10:07am

Whoa...ya know when I read his post originally I had a sneaking suspicion as well, but didn't bother to check his profile.

What a "winner" ---NOT!

Thanks for sharing that with us.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 10:21am

Ahhhhhh. *light bulb moment*


I am glad I didn't sugar coat things...

Becky

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 11:08am


I felt that vibe too, but didn't say anything. I'm so often the naysayer that I was too chicken about getting flack.

Thanks for the research Michael.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 12:27pm

Her single mom status has nothing to do with her personality. The fact is, she is a single mom. It may or may not have changed her for the better (or for the worse).

The fact that you say she likes a lot of male attention and seems to play games with them is a red flag to me. Women who need attention from every man in the room really love themselves more than they could ever love any one man. Men are attracted to at least one of these women during their dating lives. The smart ones only date one of these kinds of women. Some men never learn and have a pattern of selecting these women over and over again.

There are some truly beautiful women who are not big flirts and don't need tons of male attention.

BTW, it seems like you are into game playing too. Saying 'hi' one day and then ignoring the next day. If you have to play games to hold her attention, that's another huge red flag.

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Registered: 04-30-2005
Sun, 05-08-2005 - 12:19pm

The one piece of advice I would give any man who is considering dating a single mom is this:

Avoid making her feel like you're doing her a favour by dating her even though she has a kid.

The single moms in my life (including me) know that children are a gift, not a liability.


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