dating snafu

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dating snafu
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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 9:44pm

So I have been seeing this guy for a little while.

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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 10:02pm

hmmm... it's possible that all he wanted was sexy... and what a jerk of him for canceling on you AFTER you found a babysitter...


however, i do have another possiblity.. maybe he didn't have any money and that's why he didn't like the going out plans. I know it's a stretch, and most people will say, you don't need a guy who canceled on you like that... however, i have heard it said (from guys) that if they don't have money, they don't want to admit it and therefore prefer to stay in without giving you a good explanation. But you know this guy and you should go with your gut. If it's telling you this guy isn't sincere than NEXT. Sorry that it hurts right now.


welcome to the board. i hope you stick around... dating as a single mom is different but not impossible!


Loonybunny

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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 10:24pm

I was thinking the same thing.

JH

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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 10:40pm

Walk. Fast.


As a mother, your 1st priority is to your child.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 10:41pm
Man, you 2 give way more leeway than I would, lol.

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Fri, 08-08-2008 - 11:35pm
Rebecca and I are EXTREMELY similiar on who we date and sometimes our reason for dumping. Although, I jumped to her side to dump him, I also agree with her that it could have been a something else simple. My thought is this:
Why didn't he offer to go to HIS place, cook together and LOTS of cuddle time?
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 12:31am

I view that relationships are self-selecting which means that if it does not work out then there is a good reason. So if the guy cannot handle you child last minute schedule changes then he is not the one for you. Or if he is not flexible enough to do something besides that ONE PLAN then he is not the one for you.

I have had similar experiences where I REALLY liked the woman but for whatever reason she did not like what I did/who I am/or whatever...

It sucks but it works out in the long run.

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 9:03am
Funny - I was in a hurry when i typed that response .... if Id had the time, i was going to say the SAME THING - why didnt he offer up HIS Place???
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 9:16am
Snafu my rear, that man is a goob and should be NEXTED!!!
 
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 11:40am

When I first read this, I thought, "Sheesh, what a self-focussed, immature JERK!"

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Registered: 06-03-2008
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 12:11pm

rich, what a beautiful family you have.


Well, I had time to slepp on it and I can't say that I feel any better about the situation.

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