Dating someone you met online

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Dating someone you met online
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Thu, 04-10-2008 - 11:33am
Hello, I recently met a guy online, in a chatroom.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 04-10-2008 - 11:44am

I'm dating someone I met online (through match) but I didn't make it into a relationship until we'd met in person and it BECAME a relationship. Just don't make it into a relationship when it's all nothing but chatting or IM or emails. That's not a relationship! You have to be face-to-face, IMO- and have those face-to-face dates over several months before you can actually say it could be a true relationship. Just a few dates doesn't count, either! The only way you can know if the man is REAL and is who he says he is... is to let some time pass. People can only pretend to be who you want, only for so long.


When you finally do meet him, don't get caught up wondering if he likes you or not, and what you can do to get him to like you. Concentrate on whether you actually like HIM or not! That's one huge thing I've learned with my dating. It's not enough that he likes me, and I just go with it. I have to actually like him and think of him as someone I'd like to spend time with. Be picky!


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-10-2008 - 12:42pm

I find that the longer you communicate without meeting the higher risk of creating a sense of false intimacy.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 04-10-2008 - 1:20pm
Thanks for your reply.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-10-2008 - 2:24pm
I personally do and think that you should meet as soon as possible.
 
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 04-10-2008 - 4:31pm
I wish it were that simple! We live in different states.