Dating stuff

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Registered: 05-05-2008
Dating stuff
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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 3:41pm

Hello all..


Well, I was told you like dating stories.. and well I have some here.


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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: smartgal72
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 4:13pm

Hi Sara-


Ya- we do love dating stories! Thanks for jumping in and sharing..


I don't know if I have the right answers. Only what I might do/think in your shoes.


The first guy. It sounds like things were goign nicely. Sometimes guys for some reason "go to the cave" or ghost after a few great dates or weeks when they feel themselves falling for a girl and are afraid of the vulnerability. Or they lose interest for whatever reason and ghost because they avoid the uncomfortable feeling of being upfront. It's hard to say or speculate here. One thought came to my mind- do you think his parents being around could have something to do with this? It seems like he distanced as soon as they got back. How much have you been calling versus him calling you?


Second guy. A lot of very wise women on this board will warn and advise you to not date seriously until a year out of a divorce....and that goes for a guy too.

~Pacific~
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: smartgal72
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 4:21pm

To be honest, I would consider both of them "not here now ready now"
1) still lives at home? NO!
2) still married? NO!

Keep on dating! It is not you, my dear, it is them. You just have to keep getting out there til the right one comes along.

Hope this is helpful - it is from my own school of hard knocks - both my own experiences and after reading this board for 5 years!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: smartgal72
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 5:27pm

Hey Sara,


Guy #2: What PacSun & CL has said, he's not divorced which means he is still married.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: smartgal72
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 6:55pm

Insofar as being able to tell whether a guy wants you for you versus for sex?

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Registered: 05-05-2008
In reply to: smartgal72
Fri, 05-23-2008 - 8:21am

Hi,


He doesn't still live at home...


Guy #1 only moved to his parent house over the winter, while they were in FL so he could get the money he needed for


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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: smartgal72
Fri, 05-23-2008 - 9:56am

Hey, Sara!

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Registered: 05-05-2008
In reply to: smartgal72
Fri, 05-23-2008 - 10:03am

He and his wife seperated 1 year ago this June.