Dating updates.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Dating updates.
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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 11:44am

IT guy has been pursuing heavily and we're getting along really well. He lives less than 20 minutes from me so we can meet up in the evenings and go for walks. He's totally into me. LOL.

Nurse guy and I have a mutual co-worker. She used to work at the nursing home where I worked, but now works where he does. She is also good friends with my BFF. Apparently she called my BFF and told her that nurse guy is "right in love" with me. She was concerned because she didn't know that EG and I had broken up. Apparently she really likes the guy and doesn't want him to get hurt by me. Arggghhhh! There's no worries about EG, but I'm not sure that it would work out with him because of our opposite schedules. We were supposed to have a third date, but he's taking his time setting that up. I had no idea judging from his slow pursuit that he liked me all that much. Go figure.

I'm having a really hard time because I like IT guy, but haven't dated enough of other guys to judge whether or not he could be "the one". Yet he's super nice and has really stepped up. I've been pretty spoiled with him taking me out and cooking for me.

This is all so weird because I'm not used to men telling me nice things and how pretty they think I am. EG used to tease me about my looks unless we were having an argument.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: isysmoon
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 12:30pm
Wow Isys. How fun. Do you really think you need to date a lot to know whether someone is the one? Personally, I don't think so. But I also haven't dated with that mind set. Take things day by day, enjoy what you have and you will know. Don't think of it as 'is he the one'. As for the nurse, if you have opposite schedules, that really would crimp your time together. That would make seeing each difficult and rare. Hard to have a relationship like that.
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Registered: 02-25-2009
In reply to: isysmoon
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 4:20pm

Nice to hear, I bet, that nurse guy DOES really like you

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: isysmoon
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 5:08pm
It's been alot of fun and I am feeling really good.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: isysmoon
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 5:58pm
Well it's nice to have someone who's thoughtful, isn't it? Personally I think women really screw things up by thinking about "the one"--I'm, not even sure there is such a thing as "the one"--I think there could be many "ones" but maybe that's because I'm reading a book on marriage--I'll explain that later. But since you just met the guy, all you have to do is keep dating him. If things keep going well, you will keep dating him--after a while if neither one of you wants to date other people, then voila! you will have a relationship. You don't have to analyze things too much.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: isysmoon
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 8:46am

Hey, Isys.

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Registered: 05-13-2009
In reply to: isysmoon
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 9:57am

Just keeping dating other guys like you have been

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: isysmoon
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:01am
Yes I know.
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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: isysmoon
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:01am
Two good prospects!
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Registered: 03-14-2010
In reply to: isysmoon
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 1:45pm

ITA about there not being "the one" but rather many possible "ones" LOL
I think it is fine to date a few guys without getting too involved with just one, if that's comfortable for you. But at some point you have to decide to pursue something more with the "front runner"
I have found for me, one guy at a time is all i can deal with. And I don't expect the guy to be "the one" because I'm not looking to get remarried. I try to just take it a day at a time.

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