DD, work, and other stuff

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Registered: 04-09-2003
DD, work, and other stuff
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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 3:25pm

Well...I got hired on at a different restaurant yesterday. I explained my situation for leaving Applebee's, and I was assured that that type of behavior would not be tolerated at this restaurant. It is a family owned business and I start today at 5pm. They have assured me that they will work around my school schedule and will help out all that they can. I'm a little nervous, but hey...a job's a job and I'm going to bust my butt working and going to school. The outcome will be well worth it.

Since school doesn't start until August I am also planning on getting a second p/t job to help make ends meet and save up some. Hopefully all will go well.

As for the harrassment thing...I know that I should've filed a complaint. However, ever since the divorce thing and the court hearings, I just can't bring myself to get into any more turmoil. I know this may be wrong, but I would just rather let things "be" than to rock the boat and get into any more messy ordeals. I know that I was treated very wrong, etc...but I did what I could at the time and just left. Maybe that's weak of me, I don't know, but confrontation, at this point, is so scary and intimidating.

Leah is having a blast - if not the time of her life camping with my mom and step-dad. I talk to her at least 4 times a day! She tells me everything she's been doing, etc. and it's so cute.

I'm going to go get her tomorrow morning. My ex is supposed to get her Monday, which is his birthday, and has decided to keep her through Sunday, which is father's day. He rightfully gets her one week in June, July, and August. If I had known that he was going to chose this coming week I wouldn't have let her go with my mom for so long. I was going to tell him that he could have her the week after, but after many conversations with crush, my mom, and family, they feel that it would just cause a big fight with ex, and to just let Leah go. More than likely he'll be calling me to come pick her up anyway. If anything, ex works during the day and I'll just go get her from the babysitters and keep her until he's off work (if that's at all possible). He wants to fight with me in any and every way. I'm tired of it. All I want is the best possible care for her and her safety to be the top number one priority! I just don't want her to think that I've just up and dropped her off and don't want her. I know she won't think that, but that's one of my concerns. I don't want her to miss me and me not being able to go to her when she needs/wants me.

Other than all of this...things are starting to look on the up and up.

Guess I'll go...have to be at my new job in 2 hours...lol! I'm a little nervous, but hey...that'll pass too, right?

Kait

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 3:44pm

I am glad you found a new job so soon. I was hoping you would find a nicer restaurant with a higher check average for more tips!! Keep us posted.

I do agree with the others that sexual harassment should be reported and not tolerated. I also really like that so many came to your aid and pointed that out. HOWEVER, as I originally advised you for your situation, I agree with your actions to leave and find a better place. This is because I was in food service for so many years and know that it is easier to just find a place with a better working atmosphere. You have a lot on your plate and this is better for you right now than going to court again. I want to see you breeze through school and work on your LPN career, not battle a suit over a waitress job.

Now, if you were in a career job or one where it is not easy to switch then I would say stay and fight it. No questions. Because no one should have to quit versus be guaranteed a job without sexual harassment.

I think it is good that you did not tolerate that. I am hoping that you will watch for any hint of that behavior and report it to management right away so everyone knows right off the bat not to pull that with you. Unfortunately many who take a food service job are often uneducated and low skilled and do not understand what is acceptable. I did come up against this myself.

Now back to your exh - is he doing better? I was hoping that you could come up with limited or supervised supervision for him because of safety issues. I think this is one battle you are going to have to fight and should fight. Especially with summer here and him getting her longer. Keep documenting and looking into this, okay? Sorry to hear you will have to miss her so much.

It is also good that you will get a second PT job to save money. I think you are on the right track.

Keep us posted!!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 06-10-2006 - 12:30am

Kait,


If you don't want to rock the boat, then don't.


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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 06-10-2006 - 11:39pm

I hope your first day went well and that this place works out!

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