De-lurking and an Intro
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De-lurking and an Intro
| Mon, 10-06-2008 - 5:38pm |
Hello.
I feel like I know all of you, b/c I've been reading here, and am finally coming out from lurking in the shadows to introduce myself.
I'm Michelle.

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Welcome aboard!
Hello Michelle and welcome!
Your dating saga thus so far is very familiar to most of us here. Wow, can we undertand it! I'm very glad you decided to de-lurk and introduce yourself. It is nice to have you!
First off..good for and your exH to be great co-parents. Your children are fortunate, this is the best case scenario after a divorce, to have the parents cooperating. That is great :o)
My thoughts on MB- I don't think you are going to know anything without being more direct. I know what you're thinking- you don't want to freak the guy out and make him run for the hills. But try to think of it this way: You are a valuable, independant capable single mom, whose time and energy is very valuable. You don't have to (and should not) sacrifice what you want and need in a realtionship because if fear he will leave or he is not cut out for it. Be up front and honest about what you want. It would be much better if you knew now, early enough in the realtionship. Don't go the same route you did with TB...finding out after a year of dating he was not exclusive.
My two cents- be open and communicate what you are looking for in a realtionship. See where he stands. Sometimes you gotta know, and in your case three months into it...yea it's time talk! Good luck and keep us posted.
Welcome again, its nice to have you aboard :o)
Hi there, welcome. Sometimes these women are better than therapy. Goodness knows they are cheaper and far more convenient!
You are so lucky you and your ex get along. I thought that is what I would have for my kids when I got divorced, but it turned ugly after he moved out, so I am pretty much on my own, but I get a lot of good advice here, so it is nice to bounce stuff off someone!
The game is really hard to get back into, much harder than I expected it to be. I had been with my ex since I was 22, so at 44 I missed out on a lot of the new "rules". But then again, I wasn't very good at them in the first place.
A love triangle would be far too hard to me to bear. But I understand not wanting to leave the familiar...you justify that it's not "that bad" or "better than being alone". I had a similar situation, not a triangle, but someone who wasn't treating me as well as I deserved. I battled between not wanting to be alone and not wanting to feel lousy. Not wanting to feel lousy won (again, thanks to many here), and while it feels sort of sad, I feel much better about myself, especially knowing that I won't repeat that situation.
BTW, I know some guys hate the word "girlfriend", so they use friend instead. I wouldn't let it bother you that much.
THanks so much for the warm welcome!
I woke up this morning thinking about my reply to you last night and decided I had more to add.
WELCOME! Nice to have you!
Welcome Michelle!
So I guess I could give a little more background huh?
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