Dealbraker? Amount of Time Together?

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Dealbraker? Amount of Time Together?
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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 2:14pm

I have a friend who is breaking up with her boyfriend because he basically smothers her. He wants to be with her every non-asleep/non-working minute. She has her own family and friends and activities she enjoys - but he wants to be with her all the time. He has a good job and his family is nice - they just don't hang out together like hers does.

What are your thoughts? I thought this could be a good discussion of the week. Is this a dealbreaker?

I told her you can't really change him - you can try to set better boundaries - but really if someone is this way I don't think you can change it much. I think it has turned her off.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 7:10am
Obviously, if he wants to spend that much time with her and she doesn't with him....something is wrong. She wants a different kind of relationship than she wants and thought they may get along perfect otherwise I'm not sure such a relationship can last if she feels smothered. She sure just be careful to remember....sometimes you don't know what you've got till it is gone.

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