Did I get what i wanted???
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| Mon, 06-16-2008 - 10:36am |
OK...So friday was the child support enforcement hearing with CP. We were both notified via letter and he was notified certified letter signed for by him. Guess what...he was a no show. The probation officer asked if i had anything to say and i said yes...hes creating an extreme financial hardship for me. Its almost 1.5 months of daycare, diapers, food, shoes, clothing etc...along with not paying hes NEVER sent any necessities home for her i.e. shoes, clothing diapers. I request a lump sum...she says ok we are upping the arrears to $20 a week. Well i went slack jawed and felt like screaming but before i could say anything she says "bench warrant issued". I about fell out of my chair. I forgot to ask for future bench warrants upon missed payments. SO as you are all aware im sure, bench warrants dont do jack unless you are pulled over (ummm he doesnt dirve remember) so i was sort of sullen at the thought of not really getting any justice. So i called my atty ($$ cha-ching) and tell his secretary and ask what does this mean for this coming tuesday (thats the day we hear his motion that he asked for an extension on so he could get a lawyer to which he has NOT) and my atty said he will be arrested when he comes into the court...I can only wish that his teen bride ho is there and she starts in front of the judge and they take her illegal butt out in cuffs as well!
So as im sitting here squirming with delight...im sick to my stomach that he may go to jail....WHATS WITH THE FREAKIN QUILT...It was completely out of my hands...Where is the guilt switcher offer????
Ill keep you posted after tomorrows court date. Sheesh i need to have a fundraiser for my legal fees...(yes the judge said last time he was close to awarding me fees but honestly if hes not paying cs hows he going to pay my atty???) Cant get blood from a stone right...well you cant get grease out of this slimeball either!
I need a chocolate :0(

Geez....what a pain!
M, I'm sorry you're still going through this.
I agree with moon and others - you didn't do what he did - he did - and he has to come around.
I think it is a long process, momoflittlestar, and this sounds to me like it is headed in the right direction. It is what needs to be done for the sake of all involved - and especially for you and your DD. Be strong and get everything you need now - get it done well so you don't have to keep doing this - you have a long row to hoe so to speak because DD is so so young.
Hugs!!! And Chocolate's coming your way...
Well CP will get a wake up call. IF he shows up tomorrow. You know, I can understand your anxiety but it's not your fault, M...he made his little doggie bed and now he has to sleep in it, fleas and all.
Upping the arrears, from his paycheque?
Im sorry about the guilt. It IS so hard to turn off, even when its not our fault. But you have to keep reminding yourself it THEIR OWN ACTIONS that put them where they are.
Im sorry the CS enforcement sucks. It SO does. & so does the atty fees thing ... youre right, you CANT get blood from a stone.
I was wondering if you could somehow stall the $40K until DD is 18? Because once you give that up it will be hard to stomach his nonpayment.
My heart goes out to both you and momoflittlestar for having to deal with a crazy x and no CS. That just isn't fair to a single custodial parent or child.
& stall i will!
I would have to go back for modification - & it would cost me, but not nearly 40K!
1st off, i will show he has no record of payment for CS.