Did I over-react?
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| Wed, 10-24-2007 - 12:41pm |
Hi Everyone.
I'm batteling a cold so please excuse my foggy brain. I'll try to type coherently :o)
I am wondering, does anyone else kind of flip out when they can't reach their SO at night, or even in the day for that matter? I guess that I go along so happy and content but maybe an insecurity monster sits below the surface. Blue Eyes often goes to friends after his sporting activities like last night. He is usually reachable by cell phone and if not, he's home by 10pm for the night. Last night I kept getting his cell phone's VM and he wasn't home even by almost 11pm. I got worried. More so that I thought something had happened to him rather than his being up to no good.
I just hate it when that happens, I kind of start getting a little panicky. It reminds me of being young (but old enough to stay home alone like 12 or 13 ) and my parents would go out and come home really late...do you remmeber that feeling...of worry? So I couldn't reach him and he know that we talk every night around 10pm. I always call after DD is in bed.
He finally calls me at 11 pm from his home. He had gone to a friends house after disc golf. He told me that he did

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Hi Pac-Sun,
Sorry to hear you're under the weather.
Hey Moon,
Well, three Advil, a swig of cold syrpu and a two hour nap later, I'm actually feeling a little better! I do feel more clear, too.
I'm not a yeller even when I'm really mad so no yelling. He would have nothing to do with that so it's good I'm pretty soft spoken when I have a feeling hurt. No hollering...just told him how I felt and he would hear the concern. Geez by the way I talk you'd think he was out all nignt, lol, that's why sometimes I question my own reactions. You know, it's just as you said, a good time to talk about expectations and if mine are too high or unrealistic I will willingly take a step down and get real!
Our plan as of last night is to go out for happy hour drinks after work. If my cold's better I still might go. And your right...the cold might have made me the ehole thing feel worse last night. I'm sure I'll say something to him like I hope I didn't over react and if I did I am sorry, we'll work on it. Hmmm it's 1:30 and no word from him yet today ...what the ...JK ;o)
Thanks
I'm glad you are feeling a little better.
LOL! You were probably wanting to say...You got my digits..right?? Oh well, sounds like he's the kind of guy that appreciates a lady contacting him as much as he does the contacting!
I'm glad you had a nice time out if even for just a couple hours. I do this too during the week and it's nice, breaking up the work week.
Well, I believe my cold induced drama officially put my guy off a little. He always calls me on Wednesdays to firm up after work Wednesday happy hour and no call today. I guess I'll bite the bullet and call him after work. It;s cute really, he's as stubborn as I am when it comes to these things.
Have a great night! :o)
~Pacific~
Hi Pacific,
Yes, I do think you over-reacted, and I would have done exactly the same!! LOL
I know exactly what you mean about that feeling of panic, I have it too, and I know, while I am having it, that I am over-reacting. But hey, we're human, and I think it's hard when we are the ones at home with the kids and our SOs are out having fun. If I am out myself with friends, I don't really give it a second thought. This is definitely one of the areas of my character that I need to work on, and I am doing so, but I still find it hard. But I will get there with baby steps.
I am sure your happy hours drinks will have given you both the opportunity to clear the air. Look forward to hearing your news.
Clem xx
Hey Pacific,
I agree with missclemmy that you may have over reacted a little bit but I might have done the same thing. At the same time if you are serious about each other he might have felt the same way if it was late at night and you didn't answer your phone or call back until late. Maybe if you two discuss it you can flip it around and ask him that! :-P
I am sure you two will sort stuff out. Maybe give him a chance to think through stuff and then call you back.
It went so well in your last update so I think it will be okay.
Hi, I would say this is very normal reaction. I think this also happens mostly before the relationship is totally solidified. It also could mean that you are not getting enough afiirmation from him about his love perhaps.
Sorry that you aren't feeling well.
Thanks, Clem-
It's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels like that when it;s happening. But what I really like is that you KNOW you are over reacting when you are over reacting. I need to incorporate that aspect into myself while it;s happening and not just the next day after my head clears. My conclusion is that I did over react and he did
Hi Dance,
I can relate to your experiences, when you are more confidant versus less confidant in their love. Funny thing is I can also relate to how you have sometimes felt that you could never convince yourself that they love you enough. I feel genuine love with Blue Eyes and still I have these buttons that I need to put into check.
I was realizing something lately. I always thought I would have to have either the safe but unfullfilling realtionship OR the hot, exciting yet unsafe type. I feel that finding one who can be hot, exciting and still safe (won't betry me) is like hitting the lotto. I guess that's one reason I almost felt certain Blue Eyes would betray me...he's got charm, good looks and he's exciting to me. Therefore he will break my heart. Not I am trying to deprogram that way of thinking, because he has nover done anything to prove otherwise. He's been an angel and
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