Did you go back to your maiden name?

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Did you go back to your maiden name?
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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 5:38pm

Having an identity crisis here....

Did you go back to your maiden name after the divorce? Here's my dilema.. my driver's license is still in my maiden name because i didn't have the paper trail to update it (and it's two marriages behind... still with my birth name).

My Social Security card has been a different story.. I've updated it each time I was married. So, many of you might remember that my girls lost my purse, they also lost my SSN card AND my last marriage cert.

Getting a new drivers' license was easy.. i just brought my birth certificate.. got my license with my maiden name... no big deal, or so i thought.

Now because of the new job, i need a copy of my SSN card but I lack the paper trail for my name... So, i have an opportunity to go back to my maiden name. Would you?

Originally, i was going to leave it as the married name because it would be a pain to change and because 2 of my 5 children have that last name... Now, i have to go through the trouble anyway......So, confused......

I go tomorrow to the court house so please respond tonight...

What would you do or did you do?

Loonybunny

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 8:24pm

I never heard of that, but I might consider doing that for my girls if I ever get married again.


Catherine Murphy-Klingler Clooney. :)

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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:23pm

I kept my married name because that's my kids' name, I figured it would just be better and less confusing that way.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:36pm

Me too.

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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:39pm

Rockafellers are my neighbors!

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 10:52am

Holy Cow - we ARE a lot alike LOL!!!


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Registered: 09-02-2004
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 2:41pm

Hey ladies-


I have been dilema-ing this for a while myself. DD's have ex's name. In my papers i reserved the right to go back to my maiden. But it's soooooo much work. Once I change it, I change it. Then if I ever get married, that could be an issue. Some guys are sticklers for that. I was waiting since BF an I have been together 2 years now and I thought by now we would've moved in together or made further steps, but we are still just where we are, so I think I'm just going to do it.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:00pm

I like that explaination! I'm sure that helps make things easier and more clear for the Avester. Good thinking!

~Pacific~
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Registered: 11-03-2003
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:14pm

But when you are married - then you have your husbands name


Well.... not really.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:19pm
You are GOOD! I don't think I would change mine again.
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 6:51pm

>>with your maiden name or your married name. I don't feel I am either of those people.<<

That's how I feel.... like I want to get rid of my last name altogether or make something up. I certainly am NOT the same person i was at age 20.... nor the person I was when I was married... I've been building a new identity... I have a fairly unique first name anyway and most people aren't familiar with my last name.

BTW, I didn't get to the courthouse this morning... I'll try again tomorrow or Monday.

again, thanks for the replies.

Loonybunny