Different feelings about a ring

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Different feelings about a ring
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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 11:59am

I'm in a

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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 2:11pm

Hey there mom2maggie - good to hear your update. I guess all of us would feel the same way to some extent.

Are there things that really bother you about him? Maybe you should make a list of pros and cons?

I bet part of it is giving up your independence and taking a risk. But it is very good that you are asking these questions now!!

How long have you two been together?

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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 2:46pm

We've been dating exclusively for about

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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 3:46pm

My lists so far. . .


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Mon, 07-07-2008 - 6:12pm

Sounds pretty normal to me.

I guess you have to approach it in the sense of "to fail is not an option" and you have to love him so much that you are willing to have that attitude - and make sure of course that he has it for you. It sounds like the "cons" and the unknowns are things that can be worked on. I am curious as to why the finances would not improve if you were bringing in 2 incomes yet only running one household?

Keep pondering! There is no one holding a gun to your head!! And listen to your gut.

But most importantly - keep us posted. Maybe you want to post on the "second marriage" board - they would have better advice than me since they are "doing this" day in and day out. Not that we don't want you here - we do - and maybe you can even share what they say with us?

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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 9:33am

Finances would