Dilema: Boyfriend and son don't talk
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Dilema: Boyfriend and son don't talk
| Wed, 10-13-2004 - 11:50pm |
Okay I have a dilema. I have been dating a guy off and on for 3 years almost. Me and my son lived with him and his 2 kids for 9 months over a year ago. We keep getting back together and I have been trying very hard to make things work. What bothers me though is he has 2 kids with another woman he adores and tries to see as much as he can. I have one son who is 11 and doesn't see his father much at all. My boyfriend and my son don't have any kind of bond whatsoever after all of this time. What hurts me is this man doesn't want a child with me and doesn't go out of his way to do anything for my son but yet does anything for his ex wife and his kids. My boyfriend says that my son doesn't talk to him. I tell him to be the adult and try harder. But he won't. Can I have a relationship with someone who doesn't treat my son how I want him to? I think this is a major problem with lots of blended families. But does it have to end a relationship. He doesn't treat my son bad, just doesn't act like he cares for him really. My son doesn't say he doesn't like my boyfriend, but he doesn't want to go out of his way either. I am so sick of dealing with this. I feel ilke i treat his kids better but feel lately like not even trying because of the way he does my son. Any advice?

Don't waste any more time on him - find someone who will jump through hoops for you - there are plenty of them.
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Hi kalinsmom,
The right guy will have it in his heart to learn to care for your son over time, to care about him