Ding Dong, The Witch is Dead...
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| Thu, 06-05-2008 - 1:12pm |
...The wicked witch is, well, not DEAD but gone.
I got the call. Just now at work. He said he told her and she pretty much guilted him about ending a ten year friendship. He seemed a little, almost sad? I think what got to him was her saying that she blamed him for the secrecy saying that HE did not want her to call when I was around. Thats true, but it took both of them to carry on like that.
It feels weird. I feel (in an evil way) really great that she got was coming to her. Cut off point blank. Does that make me evil or what? I feel powerful in the way that he did that to keep me in his life. But to be honest I do not think he is 100 percent convinced it was right to shut off all contact. Maybe he will in hindsight.
So where am I in all this? I was pretty much silent and all I could really muster was "wow...so it's done." She was the biggest thorn in our relationship. I think somehow he wants me to show my appreciation or thankfulness for what he just did. But why should I

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Wow- I'm surprised he did it!
Just got another phone call.
It took him all of 15 minutes to realize he is actually relieved she is out. He said he was sad for a whole 5 minutes then the relief came over him and the light came on. He said even if I chose to say goodbye to him, he still knows she was a negative factor in his life and is glad regardless.
Again I just sat there and listened. I'm kind of in a daze I guess!
Wow!
Thanks, Ali-
Give it time and allow yourself to heal from the whirlwind of the last few months before you decide if you want to be with this man or not.
Thanks Moon- I can't believe I'm actually looking forward to bowling tonight..I never thought I would say that lol. I find it is pretty good R&R actually.
My personality has always been one that after being burned it pushes me away so that I can re evaluate and heal and bet objective before letting anyone in again. Thats what I feel like now. I feel the relief and happiness that he did it, but cautious and self protective. I feel a tension has left my body, but I also feel comfortably shelled up in my protective skin right now. IF BE cares to have me in his life in any fashion, he will understand and let me just be.
I might say a few wods to him at bowling.. a hug is in order, but my cougar fighting claws are not really out today..lol!
"and I am not always the one who has to do the bending"
Exactly!
OK Pac...you KNEW it was coming from me...tehehehe...OK on a serious note...do not get your hopes up about her getting the point. She will push the boundaries set for her now and continue. Shes like a serpent...cut off one head and three more will grow. She is going to lean on his DD more (you did say shes in touch with her didnt you?). Im just saying stay strong, continue with your guard up and remember BE has to stay strong as well.
I am happy for you but still leery of her...Hope you bowl your booty off!!!!
M - nice to read how confident you are feeling...sort of made me sit up in my chair straighter :)
LOL, M- that picture is great!!!
Thanks for that laugh :o)
You're right that she will be in closer contact with his DD now. In fact I would put money on it that she immediately picked up the phone and called her to tell how her dad's g/f is a controlling B*tch. Well who cares!! She can go screaming all she wants! His DD is actually on my side and has told BH in the past that her dad has moved on and that she (bh) needs to move on too and that she (his dd) is genuinely happy that her dad is happy finally.
BE knows that she will try to come back with some crisis. Heck she might even pull a Glenn Close and get all Fatal Attraction on his butt. Or on me. I can visualize her slashing my tires or something. Lets hope it doesnt get that ugly.
Hw are you doing M? Are you dealing with bully OK? Hows your little sweetie???
OMG you dont have any bunnies around do you??? CPs ex was like that with us...now i look back i should have moved over and let the skank back in and gotten out when the gettin was good...sheesh! Ahhh now hes got himself a new little ho and shes all psycho for him...LOL wonder when she'll get the wake up call...oh I remember in 5 years when her green card comes through.
Thanks for asking Pac...feeling kind of low and crappy and it hit me this morning why...ok so I was listening to some old UB40 and had to smack myself and turn it off. Do you know that song "many rivers to cross" its one of my favorites and always makes me tear up...Anyway, I realized its officially a year when CP started having an affair with Teen Bride Ho and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I just felt sorry for myself all morning thinking wow as it was all coming apart for me they were essentially starting their life together. Wonder if they are having a nice anniversary...I got mad at myself for still morning such a crap relationship and losing such a lowlife. I dont really know what stage im at in my grief, sometimes i get pissed then i get sad, then i get absolutely sick to my stomach for even wasting the emotions (hense the ulcer). I find i have ABSOLUTELY no patience for the prince when he pouts because i dont want him to spend the night. The prince started to bring up us moving in together and i almost hyperventilated...OMG im not ready for that in anyway. I still have horrible body image issues (huge thanks to CP for that), my roots are showing terribly and the greys are out in full force and money is so tight right now i couldnt even consider going for color since CP is still 6 weeks behind. All in all I guess im feeling a bit overwhelmed and pooped. My mom still cant watch my DD for me so i can go out and get some me time, I cant afford a sitter so even if i could get one i wouldnt have a freakin dime for me time LOL. Just burned out i think...and wondering when
I'm glad to hear that, Pac!!!!! It didn't take too long before she called him again, did it??? Now it's just up to HIM and time- as to whether he can continue to keep telling her to go away- especially if she keeps on calling anyway. He could cave and start it all back up again, if she is persistent. But maybe this is the breakthrough he needed, to start seeing how he needs to clean up the areas of his life that is dragging him down (whether you're in the picture or not). We can only hope, right?
I'm glad that you are still being cautious, and not just running straight back to his arms as if nothing had ever happened. I'd be watchful for sure!
LOL at the photo from mom-star. That is great!!!
Have fun bowling!
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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