Ding Dong, The Witch is Dead...

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Ding Dong, The Witch is Dead...
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 1:12pm

...The wicked witch is, well, not DEAD but gone.


I got the call. Just now at work. He said he told her and she pretty much guilted him about ending a ten year friendship. He seemed a little, almost sad? I think what got to him was her saying that she blamed him for the secrecy saying that HE did not want her to call when I was around. Thats true, but it took both of them to carry on like that.


It feels weird. I feel (in an evil way) really great that she got was coming to her. Cut off point blank. Does that make me evil or what? I feel powerful in the way that he did that to keep me in his life. But to be honest I do not think he is 100 percent convinced it was right to shut off all contact. Maybe he will in hindsight.


So where am I in all this? I was pretty much silent and all I could really muster was "wow...so it's done." She was the biggest thorn in our relationship. I think somehow he wants me to show my appreciation or thankfulness for what he just did. But why should I

~Pacific~
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 3:33pm

I'm so sorry, M.


I really did not realize all this went down with your ex and skanky ho only one year ago. I assumed it had bren longer ..No wonder you are still raw! Anniversarys if events always bring it home- the feel of the time of year- the way the light is- everything. My dd got so sick when she was three- we did not know if she would live- she was hospitalized. That happned on the fall...and for years afterwars when the fall came I got very moody, sad and sick feeling.


As for your not getting "me" time. You so need some for your mental health! I was wondering.. do you trust Prince enough to take DD away for a few hours one afternoon or morning? You could really use that- just some solo time even if you have nothing to spend money wise. A fresh place, a breather, a book, a good run, some time to reflect.


I really hope Prince can understand your mood right now. I hope he can be patient and get that you are not always up for the overnights. You've just got so much on you mind right now!


Huge hugs to you, M. I am wishing you a day (or week or month) of puppies, sun, chocolates and escape time.


~Pacific~
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 3:49pm

Thanks Pac. The prince couldnt take DD...shes still in diapers and babies are not his thing. He plays with her and swings her around...jumps runs...but as far as one on one with me more than 25 feet away, not happening. I didnt realize how much it has been affecting my mood until you put it in plane sight. My liido has been WAY down, my mood has been less than tolerant. Even poor DD has been getting the raw end...i didnt want to watch a barbie video last night and dance with her. She loves to spin like a balerina and ive just been down...I will dance with her tonight though and suck up every minute of "Garbie" Then reading through Rebeccas post about TAZ and not paying CS and having to pick up all the costs of dance class just puts it all out there more and more that while that bastard has all of my old things, didnt have to uproot one thing, didnt sacrifice anything at all and his ho moved right in ( I moved out after catching him the 3rd time in Sept of lst year we were together 5 years and DD is now 2)...i had to make a fresh start for me and DD. Nothing is an inconvenience to him at all...absolutley nothing. This week when i drove her to him for her visit i asked for the gas money and he looked at the car and simply said "gas money? im not giving you gas money...you get free gas with that f-ing thing" what the he$$ was that supposed to mean??? I said ok...then she wont be here next week and i drove away. He had the affair, I moved out, he kept everything, TBH moved in 2 days later, he pays no support, has no lawyer (supposedly is getting one), pays no gas money, doesnt even get dressed when i bring DD (hes in his pajamas)....no sacrafices at all. To make it all worse i live on advil pm otherwise i cant sleep a wink (i cant sleep when i take it anyway). Oh well this week shall pass and i'll be back to myself right...Anyway this weekend is a strawberry festival and they are DDs favorite.


Back to you Pac...so what are you going to do about BE? Love surely sucks at times doesnt it?? The heart wants what the head doesnt. Glad you are staying focused though.

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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 3:51pm

Thanks, Shrimps. It did not take long for her to call, did it?


I knew it would happen this week. Every single suspision and hunch I've had about her was right. You know, I can just imagine her sitting there putting a witch hex on me. But as the day on I'm feeling even happier. I just can explain it. I know things are perfect and I'm not jumping in again just like that...but dang- knowing he told her feels GREAT.


~Pacific~
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 3:52pm

M, I'm so sorry you're feeling this pain AGAIN!

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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 3:55pm

OMG Moon...thank you. Are they Pekings? The big fat white ones are the best!!!

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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 3:58pm

Yes, they're Pekins.

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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 4:13pm

To make it all worse i live on advil pm otherwise i cant sleep a wink (i cant sleep when i take it anyway).


OK I truly hope you get a kick out of this- even a little chuckle...


Speaking of not sleeping. I live in an apartment and the walls are paper thin. You can practically hear the neighbors scratching themselves. So anyway- I have a neighbor right next door who has an actual disorder called catathrenia. What happens is when he gets into deep sleep he MOANS VERY VERY LOUDLY. The first time I heard it I though he was having really good sex for a really long time, like 4 hours. Then is started happening every night. Other neighbors have complained. Police have showed up at his door. He seems clueless when people complain...He has no idea I guess! Anyway it is so loud. Last night I had to leave my own bedroom and sleep on the couch because his place is on the other side of my bedroom wall. The sounds he makes are so funny...DD actually giggles. At least SHE is entertained, lol!


I'm sorry that Prince is not willing to take your DD for a while. Maybe in time he can warm up to that?

~Pacific~
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 4:19pm

LMAO...Im so sorry for your neighbor...sending advil pms and some ear plugs. Thank you for the chuckles...and the empathy...much appreciated!!!!


Glad youre headed in a better direction...head and heart in synch (getting there anyway)

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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 4:49pm
hey Pac...that is great news that he actually did it finally! It must feel VERY validating and I hope so much for you that it sticks!!!! The thing with BH is that people like her stroke him and make him feel something that you dont though so please please keep your antenna up ok? Remember how wonderful and special you are - I remember finally seeing my ex do things I had been asking for months or years as soon as I left and he did it all like no big deal and I surprised myself by first being validated and then thinking "geez...seriously if it was so easy for you to do and you know it is the right thing - why did you put me through years of hoop holding ya twit?" I love happy endings more than anyone ( yes, I just saw the Sex and the City movie, lol) but I dont want you to be a hoop holder -you have much better things to offer the world than being somebody's hoop holder Pac!
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 4:49pm
Mom little star - I am as always wishing I could smack your ex upside his big head and he could even stay in his PJs for it - I dont have a dress code. I just want you to know it will get better. I know you KNOW it but really find some time ( even twenty minutes) and do something simple like a long bath or a walk and FEEL it too. It will get better because this stress you are feeling is not what the universe has planned for you and DD. It is just the painful exit/entrance from bad to good. I truly wish it were easier for you - I can feel the strain in your posts. Also, just so you know - I think I might be the carrot pants whisperer ( dont worry I wont be adding that to my resume anytime soon) because I think the free gas comment is about a deal Chrysler has going on ( or maybe it is another company too) for free gas with new cars for a certain amount of years. Didnt you just get a new car? Idiot has found another easy way to excuse himself for not helping you financially. You may want to clarify that you dont have this arrangement with your car company so that he gets his big head screwed on straight - if that is possible!!
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