Diving back in~

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Diving back in~
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 10:00pm

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I posted on a regular basis (last summer) so I'll re-introduce myself. Dani here~single, divorced Mom to three awesome little boys ages 10,6 and 4 1/2. I had been dating someone that I met back in July for about 6 months and everything clicked AMAZINGLY but he moved out of state for his job back in January so things ended. I had been on many dates since my divorce had ended but "D" was the first person that the kids met (and only casually introduced as my friend on about 2 occasions so there was no confusion there for them at all). I was very hurt and took about two months to focus on myself and on my school work (I'm back in school pursuing my Bachelor's in Nursing) but am now trying to brush myself off and jump back into the dating pool.

So I've met someone on Match and it looks like I'm going to go out on my first date since "D" left town this Wednesday night. It's funny~I just feel kind of indifferent about the whole thing but I think I just need to push myself to take the plunge and get this date out of the way. Whether we click or not, it's a way of moving things in a new direction for me. I need to stop dwelling on the past~it's OVER. Trying to psyche myself up a bit. He seems like a really nice guy but you just never know until you meet in person. I suppose it will just be fun to get out again and have some fun, right?

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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 4:03am
Sorry it didnt work out with D. But youre right, just getting yourself out there will help. Have a little fun & experiment!

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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 6:57am

Hey there, welcome back! I am sorry to hear your relationship ended, but every ending is a new beginning.

I like that you took some time for yourself, and if you feel you're ready to date, feeling indifferent isn't always such a bad thing.

I will help keep you on an even keel- slow and steady wins the race in dating sometimes. Look at each date as a few hours to enjoy yourself with another adult. Don't try to think about if he could be "the one" or if you're going to see him again. If you are, you will, if he is, it'll show up over time.

I don't really have any more advice, as my brain is not quite working properly yet, but just know you can always come here- and we want an update after the date!!

Moody, who knows that feeling of indifference well


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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 12:43pm
Thanks~yeah, I think I just kind of have to give myself a bit of a push to start moving forward again. I'll update after the date~
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 12:45pm
You're so right~every ending IS a new beginning and in general I'm a pretty optimistic person so I've been going over those thoughts in my head. Thanks for the encouraging words~will update after my date!
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 5:26pm

Sorry to hear about D moving - that is sad. But the good thing is that you took time for yourself and are putting yourself out there now. An even better thing is that you might find someone you like so much better than D who WILL stick around and want to be with you.

Welcome back - keep us posted!