Do My Dates Even Count Anymore?
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| Fri, 05-23-2008 - 6:46pm |
It's been so long that I've been with Hiker... date reports are just not the highlight of the board like they might've been at the beginning!
But yay that I have a date with Hiker tonight. Nothing huge, just dinner and then watching the Spurs/Lakers game. We might watch part of it while we are out, and then watch the rest of it "in"... and then depending on how the game is going, we might just get too distracted to care about the game. ;-)
It's about time though. It's been a SLOW month for us dating, although we have seen each other about once a week as usual. It's just not the same as some of our "dates" were more like family gatherings (like him coming with me to my cousin's nursing school pinning ceremony and dinner after) and not just dates for us. And we also had a museum event date with my kids last week- which was not a romantic thing, although it was a nice outing nevertheless!
So this will be the first time all month that we will be together, just ourselves.... and with my mind free of this month's stresses. Mother's Day and all that surrounding that has now passed. The foundation work on my home (for the most part) is now done. My potential surgery is now on hold and I'm back on "fibroid watch" as they don't recommend doing anything as long as I still have ZERO symptoms from it. So now everything that had me stressed out this month... is over. And I'm exhausted! I actually took a nap this morning, and still felt tired when I woke up.
So hopefully the date tonight will be a good break from the day-to-day stuff, and a time when I can finally just RELAX without having those "clouds" hanging over me.
I'm enjoying the adventures in dating for everyone else on the board though! Exciting stuff, those early months of discovery!!! Our dates are more like putting on a comfy pair of sweats instead of finding the perfect hot party outfit... but it's still nice. I'm wanting some comfort and peace and NO DRAMA for awhile!!! I think my adrenaline supply

I so desire that regular, day-to-day ordinariness of wearing sweats together stage of a relationship. I like that with my kids when they visit but I also throw in something different just because I get bored.
Have a good Memorial Day weekend.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
Oh wow - I am so relieved that the foundation work is done and that you don't have to have surgery, Shrimps!! I was worried about you - those are not fun and that is too much bad stuff to deal with at once, never mind the timing of Mother's Day and all you have been through.
We love your date reports - it is fun to see all the stages of dating on here. Have fun and keep us posted!
Thanks Mark, Judy & R!
It was a nice evening out... though the Spurs lost! So now they have an uphill battle if they want to keep going in the playoffs. Of course- they won the last round of the playoffs after losing the first 2 games as well. :-P But somehow I don't think they will be as lucky with the Lakers.
Dinner was great- at "our" sushi place where we had our first date. We had sushi and split a Bento box. Lots of food and it was all delicious! The owner of the place came by and talked to us (as she is a family friend of my Dad's). I also saw one of my nursing students there.
Just like camping out in a comfy pair of sweats. :-)
The only thing that bugs me lately though- is that he won't pick anything! Where to eat? He will eat anywhere (I can, too)- and he makes me pick. Which is how he was from the start, so it's not anything new- but I guess this month it's bugged me. Maybe it's because I've had so many other big decisions to make in my own world, that I would like it if he could just PICK a restaurant for God's sakes... but he won't. Even if I toss out 2-3 choices I'd like, he won't pick one out of those!!! I do like it that he is so laid back & flexible... but every now and then, I wouldn't mind it if he had an actual PLAN instead of having me decide what we could go do or where we'd eat.
Not deal-breakers... just annoyances for this month- mainly because of what my life was, THIS month. :-P
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I sometimes like that myself. I tend to go with the flow and easy about whatever others do. My children are the same way ... until I decide on something they don't like. I sometimes say "Well if you HAD to pick then what would it be?" That usually does not work. This drives me nuts for when they say "We don't care" I know that they do because some things they do care about.
You may want to try, "Honey, I'm tired of picking since this has been a challenging month of making a lot of big decisions. It would help me a lot if you choose this time." or "Honey, since I find myself making the decisions for us, I want you to do for this time." or "I am not planning or choosing but I want to go out. You choose. "
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
Thanks Mark! I have sort of approached it that way, but not in quite such a clear-cut manner! I will have to remember those phrases for next time. Just to make it clear. I know he would step up if I actually put it that way. I mean- it's not like I'm asking him to decide anything BIG or anything! Just dinner!
Usually when he does have a preference for something, he says something. But last night he was extremely noncommittal even for his norm!
~shrimpy
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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