I can relate... there's a particular song on the radio that i can't even listen to because it's about a young boy who courts his highschool sweetheart and they marry and grow old together... And i think.... that didn't happen for me... i didn't meet that guy when i was young.... mine is not the traditional story... at all...
So i have a new song in my heart.... how bout that one by Jewel... "Stronger Woman"... lol... i really like that song....
Fortunately, at my previous church in the old city.... the pastor and pastor's wife
You're not alone, Cat. I've felt that way before. I just remind myself when I feel that to remember that "ideal" does not have to be achieved through the traditional nuclear family. But sure, those thoughts creep in. And Dang the media doesnt help- all those nuclear families sitting by the fire singing songs etc. Sometimes ir can be hard.
It's a great church.... and very sincere... they never saw single moms as second class citizens... it was obvious that they extended their hearts to me.... wanted to help in everyway possible... and admired me for my courage.. and recognized that i was doing the BEST for my children.... they stood by me 100% and lifted me up... let me know how God truly sees me and all single moms.... I felt like, now i just need to find a man who will treat me that well, too. Amen. But seriously, they set the bar high, and i thought if people i don't know treat me this well, and hold me up, then surely if/when i meet a man who says he loves me, then he will treat me like that too... know what i mean...
And i think i'm on the right track.... weeding them out... holding out for something better... something my children and i deserve... it will happen.
Here's to faith... the evidence of things unseen and the certainty of things hoped for .... (hebrews 1:11) (or is it 11:1...oops, i can't quite remember....)
I'm glad you posted that, Loony. It reminds me of the pull I have to get centered to my Spirituality again. It is my pillar of strength and I have a tendancy to wander off thinking I can manage my life without giving it much thought. But then a light comes on again, a reminder that there is solace and place of strenght and rest if I just give in to it...
Thanks for bringing that light into my mind again! I feel like one of those metaphorical sheep who got lost from the herd many years ago..lol :o)
Exactly!!! Even now we go to things together (well meet there) & I am sure people don't even realise we are separated! You can't see years worth of unhappiness .......
Cat I'm surprised you were the only one. At my dd's school I would imagine 1/2 to 3/4 of the class have divorced/separated parents! In fact she USED to say she was one of the few in the class with parents living together! LOL
It's easy to see the surface and think all is well- be we all here know too well that it is not always that way. Traditional does not equal happy all of the time. I knew so many families growing up who were "in tact" but living in
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I can relate... there's a particular song on the radio that i can't even listen to because it's about a young boy who courts his highschool sweetheart and they marry and grow old together... And i think.... that didn't happen for me... i didn't meet that guy when i was young.... mine is not the traditional story... at all...
So i have a new song in my heart.... how bout that one by Jewel... "Stronger Woman"... lol... i really like that song....
Fortunately, at my previous church in the old city.... the pastor and pastor's wife
Fortunately, at my previous church in the old city.... the pastor and pastor's wife
Fortunately, at my previous church in the old city.... the pastor and pastor's wife
You're not alone, Cat. I've felt that way before. I just remind myself when I feel that to remember that "ideal" does not have to be achieved through the traditional nuclear family. But sure, those thoughts creep in. And Dang the media doesnt help- all those nuclear families sitting by the fire singing songs etc. Sometimes ir can be hard.
It's a great church.... and very sincere... they never saw single moms as second class citizens... it was obvious that they extended their hearts to me.... wanted to help in everyway possible... and admired me for my courage.. and recognized that i was doing the BEST for my children.... they stood by me 100% and lifted me up... let me know how God truly sees me and all single moms.... I felt like, now i just need to find a man who will treat me that well, too. Amen. But seriously, they set the bar high, and i thought if people i don't know treat me this well, and hold me up, then surely if/when i meet a man who says he loves me, then he will treat me like that too... know what i mean...
And i think i'm on the right track.... weeding them out... holding out for something better... something my children and i deserve... it will happen.
Here's to faith... the evidence of things unseen and the certainty of things hoped for .... (hebrews 1:11) (or is it 11:1...oops, i can't quite remember....)
Loonybunny
The thing is I know that all is not as it seems.
I'm glad you posted that, Loony. It reminds me of the pull I have to get centered to my Spirituality again. It is my pillar of strength and I have a tendancy to wander off thinking I can manage my life without giving it much thought. But then a light comes on again, a reminder that there is solace and place of strenght and rest if I just give in to it...
Thanks for bringing that light into my mind again! I feel like one of those metaphorical sheep who got lost from the herd many years ago..lol :o)
Exactly!!! Even now we go to things together (well meet there) & I am sure people don't even realise we are separated! You can't see years worth of unhappiness .......
Cat I'm surprised you were the only one. At my dd's school I would imagine 1/2 to 3/4 of the class have divorced/separated parents! In fact she USED to say she was one of the few in the class with parents living together! LOL
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So true Cat!
It's easy to see the surface and think all is well- be we all here know too well that it is not always that way. Traditional does not equal happy all of the time. I knew so many families growing up who were "in tact" but living in
What I'm finding (as my kids get a bit older) is that a lot of the families
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