Do you tell anyone you do OLD?
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| Tue, 03-04-2008 - 8:45am |
I was just thinking after Cat's story - of talking to her mom - and of what it must have been like for people to be divorced so many years ago - of the stigma, lack of good jobs, lack of internet support forums such as this one and lack of internet dating - what a lucky thing we all have now - although it doesn't seem that way when we are sifting through piles of misfits!!
BUT the thing is - most mainstream married folks could never imagine internet dating, especially when the internet did not even exist in their younger days. So I do not tell very many people I am doing that. Yesterday when we did the pix I told my hairdresser it was for a magazine article!! He is very conservative Latin and always tries to get me to go to his church - he would FREAK if he knew what he was really doing!! LOL!! And my parents would, too. OMG - my mother would stay up all night worrying that someone was going to kidnap me.
Who do you tell? I was thinking this could be fun to find out what everyone says about - how they met - or what they are doing?
I think one thing is for sure. I have learned a LOT LOT LOT about people from my OLD experiences. It has brought the whole world to my door - like it or not - and I have learned to screen, delete, say no, ignore and surely learn what is out there and what I like and don't like.

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Now that I don't OLD anymore, I don't have to field that question, really. But if anyone asks how I met Hiker, I would tell them it was online. He isn't a weirdo, he isn't a jerk, and he is a GREAT match for me! So I would tell anyone that OLD isn't all jerks and creeps, although they ARE out there. You just have to learn to trust your gut, and to learn to read between the lines and weed people out.
AND- on the flip side- you have to be willing to give people a chance, even if they might not LOOK like what you'd think was a dreamy guy. Looks change. MY OWN looks change! So I've learned to look past that- especially the aspects about appearance that you have no control over. (wrinkles, gray hair, facial features, baldness, height)
The stuff I won't
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I sheepishly tell people that I do OLD--not because I am embarrassed but because most people who even ask are older than I am and they wouldn't even consider it--at least not in my region of the world!!
April
At the moment, I don't know anyone IRL who OLDs (are there enough acronyms so far?) so I never bring it up.
I consider OLD mainstream ("You Got Mail" and "Must Love Dogs").