Does he want a baby?

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Registered: 01-16-2008
Does he want a baby?
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Tue, 05-27-2008 - 12:46pm

I have been with my BF for 2 1/2 years now.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Wed, 05-28-2008 - 3:11pm

Well done, Shrimps, for adding it all up into one package.

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Registered: 06-21-2007
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 2:25am

He's manipulative. He picked the one thing you couldn't really change without surgery, tubes tied, then used it as an excuse to ask for whatever he pleases. You dont have to Make it Up to him. You were that way when the relationship began.


That's like dating a bald guy and then demanding he get hair plugs or you are going to cheat on him and expect him to like it. Sounds pretty silly.

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 11:27am

I have to agree that this behavior is manipulative, and who goes through a "phase" of wanting kids? Either, yes, you want to be a parent or no you do not want to be a parent. It is not a temp job!
Although I think most men fantasize about the threesome thing, most also realize women aren't into that. Even the more sexually adventurous of us draw the line there. There is some psychological message there that you aren't enough for him. It strikes me as a power thing. By continuing to bring it up, when you've firmly said no, is showing he doesn't care what you feel. That he seems to feel he has some right to badger you about it is a really bad sign.
Sorry, but I'm voting NEXT. You deserve someone who respects you and finds you to be more than enough woman for him.

QueenBun

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 12:56pm

Perfect analogy, Silver!


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Registered: 01-16-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 10:18am
I am actually surprised I have gotten support for thinking the way I do.

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