Does your man know how to dress?

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Does your man know how to dress?
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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 1:13pm
I remember my ex had the biggest problem matching things up and putting together an outfit that looked good. I always had to go shopping with him or just go alone to buy his clothes. I knew his sizes and the general style he liked, so I always hit a home run. He'd love my choices and look great when I dressed him, but it got annoying dressing a grown man. I remember he'd get up for work early and I wouldn't see him til he got home. I'd be horrified sometimes at what I saw. Black shoes, brown belt and khakis with a tan or brown shirt. Come on! All tan or brown including the belt, which is fine, but BLACK SHOES with it? He had brown shoes.

Shane is a breath of fresh air. He can DRESS! He actually enjoys shopping (now I know this scares most girls because he sounds gay, but believe me, he's NOT!) He buys brown and black shoes, matching belts and nice slacks and button up shirts for work. Very tasteful "power ties", and even is nice enough to wear a white tee underneath. He wears cologne too and not the cheap stuff. His socks aren't that great, but they are under his pants and a desk, so I'm not sweating that. Now he has his days. He wears some butt ugly Old Navy olive green cargo shorts that are getting old and some holes are forming. He also has some t-shirts that have seen better days. Silly "man" t-shirts with crude sayings on them. But he's at least allowed those to be worn strictly in the house and he changes to go out. He also has a pair of leather sandals that I insist stay outside. Hey, leather absorbs sweaty feet and it's nasty!

Other than the Old Navy shorts and the silly tees, oh and the sandals, it's all good. And to see that man in a pair of Wranglers and boots is....okay, Mama's getting hot!

Later! Gotta call my man!

Mel

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:46pm
I totally agree on the panties. I have to have pretty panties and bras. I have a large cheat...almost DD, but I can still get a nice underwire satin bra and panty set at Victoria's Secret. And I like to wear a lower cut shirt sometimes because I know Shane is looking...hey, he's a breast man! I'm with you! You have to try to look your best. Keep your man on his toes. If you continue to go out with a tangled ponytail, no makeup and broken out skin, it's bound to have a negative effect on your man...and yourself.

Mel

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:54pm
Interesting, so do we really see many "ugly old hags?" I don't see many women who look all that bad. Some may look plain, and LOTS wear jeans and tees, or even sweats...but I still don't see any hags.

It's hard for me to think Mel could look like a hag if she TRIED! LOL

Sorry, but that just hit me funny.

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:59pm
Thanks for that. LOL!

Believe me, I've seen women who needed work. I know that it is hard to get dressed and put on makeup each day or to do your best to look good, but I've seen women out there that look as if they haven't bathed in a week. How can anyone go out looking this way? Even if you're poor, soap is cheap. Shampoo is cheap. Clothes aren't the biggest issue. Okay sweats can be cute if they are clean. But wash yourself!

So I've seen hags. I strive not to be one and I appreciate you feeling like I couldn't look like one. Boy i make it a point not to ever!

Mel

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 2:49pm

Mel, I couldn't agree with you more.

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:04pm
"He saw a woman on the street with great legs in high heels and a very flattering dress. He felt guilty but thought, WOW. She turned around, and she was me!"

Wow! That's an EXCELLENT story! You are both very lucky!

Michael

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:05pm
I dress for the occasion, and for comfort and style and so does my SO.

I guess if I had to step back and take a look I'd say he does wear a lot of shorts and jeans with t-shirts on his days off. No brand names, very practical (he buys a lot of his stuff at Costco) lol. He wears khaki's and dockers style pants and nice button up collared shirts or polos when he's at work (high school teacher). I have never had a reason to ask him to dress differently. He dresses up when it's appropriate, wears a tux to the prom, and a suit to the opera...even though in Seattle, most people go to the opera in jeans!

I wear suits and skirts sets and nice pants and blouses for work, but I can't remember the last time I actually wore a dress (I think it was my dd's kindergarten graduation, lol). We have a business casual work environment, but because I am in HR I try to stay more on the business side, so I'm always a little more dressed up than most everyone else. I wrote the dress code policy, so I have to make sure I model it appropriately! On my days off I wear nice jeans, and nice fitting tops. I workout in flared gym pants, gym shorts and tanks. I don't own any sweats. I dress up when its appropriate and I do tend to go a little on the sexier side when it's an evening outing. I know SO appreciates that very much!

And underwear? Don't even get me started! I have 17 different colored and textured bras. LOL

I was taught from an early age that you should look presentable all the times. I never go out without fixing my hair and makeup, but I don't wear a lot of it. I like a fresh and natural look and I have great skin so it works for me.

But my best accessory is my smile, and I never leave home without it. :)

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:22pm
I used the idea of jogging pants just as a "frinstance". There are a lot of ways that women (and men) dress that count as "baggy jogging pants".

"Notice makes me uncomfortable. But, I'd like to be more noticable for his sake, I think. Does that make sense?"

It makes a lot of sense. One thing that I really liked in my now defunct relationship was that she let me know that she dressed to impress ME. I always tried to do that in my marriage, but had never had the opportunity to know what it was like to be on the receiving end of that sort of attention and thought.

If a man realizes that his woman is doing something special because she wants his admiring attention, I think that it gives him a unique feeling of love, acceptance and security.

Michael

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:39pm
Theoretically does this work in the reverse Michael?

I think your look doesn't change for a relationship, does it?

It's all so subjective anyway. Your look is one I'm not unfamiliar with, and I can't say I think it's "wrong" in anyway, but it's a turn off for me in particular.

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:53pm
Oh and I'm asking because I am under the impression that you look is not so much a look as part of "who you are", your identity...maybe your ethnic heritage, even?

I'm sure lots of people think my looks are a turn off as well, so I don't mean that in a bad way. Chemistry is VERY individual.

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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 10:49am

If a man realizes that his woman is doing something special because she wants his admiring attention, I think that it gives him a unique feeling of love, acceptance and security.


Michael, this is so true.