Does your man know how to dress?

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Does your man know how to dress?
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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 1:13pm
I remember my ex had the biggest problem matching things up and putting together an outfit that looked good. I always had to go shopping with him or just go alone to buy his clothes. I knew his sizes and the general style he liked, so I always hit a home run. He'd love my choices and look great when I dressed him, but it got annoying dressing a grown man. I remember he'd get up for work early and I wouldn't see him til he got home. I'd be horrified sometimes at what I saw. Black shoes, brown belt and khakis with a tan or brown shirt. Come on! All tan or brown including the belt, which is fine, but BLACK SHOES with it? He had brown shoes.

Shane is a breath of fresh air. He can DRESS! He actually enjoys shopping (now I know this scares most girls because he sounds gay, but believe me, he's NOT!) He buys brown and black shoes, matching belts and nice slacks and button up shirts for work. Very tasteful "power ties", and even is nice enough to wear a white tee underneath. He wears cologne too and not the cheap stuff. His socks aren't that great, but they are under his pants and a desk, so I'm not sweating that. Now he has his days. He wears some butt ugly Old Navy olive green cargo shorts that are getting old and some holes are forming. He also has some t-shirts that have seen better days. Silly "man" t-shirts with crude sayings on them. But he's at least allowed those to be worn strictly in the house and he changes to go out. He also has a pair of leather sandals that I insist stay outside. Hey, leather absorbs sweaty feet and it's nasty!

Other than the Old Navy shorts and the silly tees, oh and the sandals, it's all good. And to see that man in a pair of Wranglers and boots is....okay, Mama's getting hot!

Later! Gotta call my man!

Mel

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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 11:06am
I still dress like I did when I met Shane. I always wear nice things. I love jeans, but I wear cute shirts with them and I hardly ever wear sneakers unless I'm working out. I wear open toed shoes, 4 inch heels. And I'm 5'9! I really don't need the heels, but it looks good and I love to make my legs, although VERY long, look longer and more elegant. I have muscular dancer's legs from Ballet, so I love to accentuate that as much as I can. I have a denim mini that I wear. It's lower on the hip and I have some adorable tops that I like to wear with it. Shane loves that skirt. It shows off my legs. I'm very tanned from this summer. Hawaii's tan stayed and I've been at a few pools since then too. I tan easily. One top Shane particularly likes is a bronze colored halter. It has a draping neckline that shows some cleavage and it's a shimmery material and very soft. It has an asymetrical hemline and in front, has gorgeous brown beads hanging from the bottom. I wear it with nice slacks and heels. I'll occasionally wear a jacket with it and remove the jacket later. He loves my shoulders and upper back. And yes, I wear a bra with it. Some women don't, but I have great strapless bras and being as endowed as I am, I NEED one. LOL!

I do think of him when I dress most days. Especially when we're going out. I want him to see that I am willing to take the time to really fix myself up well. And if my hair refuses to bend with just a round brush, out comes the curling iron to finish the job. I have thick, tempermental hair. This is why I usually keep it shoulder length or above or else it's ponytails everyday, which I get tired of.

I also dress Dylan well. He's a reflection on me as well and I think my son, even if he's gonna go get dirty needs to wear something cute. Shane picks out his own clothes and he always looks good. I've only gone out on a limb once and bought him something. I bought him a new golf shirt. It's pale yellow with navy and green thin strips. It looks great. His tan skin looks so good against the pale yellow. Makes him look darker. I love him in shorts. His calf muscles are unbeLEIVABLE!

I think that anyone that takes a little extra time, even five minutes, to do something positive with their appearance is bound to make a statement. It's not vanity, it's just pride in yourself. Nothing wrong with that.

Mel

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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 12:51pm
Nice how that works, isn't it?

He liked the way you look/dress from the beginning...you think of him when you dress and it doesn't mean you're changing for him...and he likes that you dress the way he likes...kind of a perpetual reinforcing thing.

Trav declared me "exotic" from the first time he saw pictures of me and that's what he likes...makes it easy to be pleasing.

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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 1:00pm
TT labeled me "natural" - that's what he likes and that's what I am . . . .

I rarely wear ANY makeup on the weekends, at all, unless we are going out at night. I scrub my face, put on moisturizer and chapstick, pull my hair back into a pony tail, and slip into shorts, a tshirt and tennis shoes. And I LIVE in my tennis shoes and flip flops all weekend. It's me. It's who I am. And TT loves me that way, and so do my boys who I am constantly chasing, running around, playing with.

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 12:04am
It was nice to read the responses in this area. To me, it's not about what particular clothes someone wears because there are so many different styles. To me, it's about self respect and respect for the ones in your life.

I don't know if it's common or uncommon, I do know that when someone "gives up" on their dressing after they get married, that it really sticks out. There are both men and women who dress nice until they're married, and then let it go afterwards. Women will often dress nice for their girlfriends or other people, men that go that route seem to wear nice clothes only at their funeral.

Michael

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 9:37am
>>men that go that route seem to wear nice clothes only at their funeral. <<

LOL, I like that. The old "buy a suit to be buried in" syndrome.

Thanks for that chuckle

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 10:15pm

Trav declared me "exotic" from the first time he saw pictures of me and that's what he likes...makes it easy to be pleasing.

That's really sweet.

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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 4:56am
Hi Michael,

You sound like such a unique individual!!

Anyway, thanks for asking us what we wear. I must say I have changed on this. I used to wear more comfortable clothes - shorts, casual top (this is Florida and summer is always here).

BUT I now have a lot of Latin friends (both married and single) and they have had a big influence on me. I tend to get a lot more dressed up and wear more sexy, flattering clothes. I have changed my taste in all my shoes.

So, while I do not have an SO at the moment, I am definitely cruising in style and would stay this way. It is a new and fun approach to life - miniskirts and high heels!! Also sexy shoes with my shorts. And always flattering bras and tops.

I really admire the way latin women have so much pride in what they wear and how they always make sure they look good. Even if they are married.

I do work out a lot - swim - bike - run - so if I am not dressed to the 9s then I am in workout clothes - but these are all nice athletic clothes.

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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 8:21am
Well, I didn't really want to know what everyone was wearing. I've seen posts like that by men on other boards and they sort of creep me out.

I think of our way of dressing as both cause and effect. How we dress is very much an effect of how we think of ourselves. But how we dress can also affect how we think of ourselves. I'm also not especially talking about provocative styles, since it is common to see women who dress very provocatively and who do so because they have no good idea of who they are. I've not figured out how this applies to men, though.

I do like the attitude of Latin people. It is not just the women, the men also seem to take more care in their dress than many of the men in this country.

It's just such a balancing act, though, between looking nice and wearing clothes that are burdensome because of the climate or whatever.

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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 9:58am
What bothers me is the women that dress provacatively and act cheap. You know, hanging all over guys in bars, rubbing their bodies all over them on the dance floor and most of the time, going home with them. These women have no self esteem and it bothers me. I dress sexy a lot. Miniskirts, heels, pretty halters or flattering tops with low slung jeans and cute belts. I always take pride in my appearance and I worked hard to get my body back in shape after my divorce, so of course, I want to flaunt what I've got. I dress this way (and not skimpy with my butt hanging out) because I'm proud of my body. But the girls who dress like that and act like they're in heat all the time give those of us who are actually classy a bad rap. It's sad.

Mel

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