Doing it ALONE . . . .
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| Mon, 11-15-2004 - 4:25pm |
West's post about going to see Alfie alone (I go see foreign flicks alone - I don't have anyone who enjoys going to see them) and others' responses to her seeing the movie alone and my going out to dinner alone (I love this little French bistro that has the most amazing crepes) kind of made me think . . . .
Have you gone to the movies alone?
Besides when travelling for business, have you ever went to lunch or dinner at a sit down REAL restaurant (I'm not talking McDonald's here!) alone?
Have you ever taken a "fun" class (like cooking or wine tasting or dance, etc.) alone?
ANYTHING that you've done alone - share your experience.
Is there something you have always REALLY wanted to do but have never done because you didn't have someone to go with you? WHAT?
Would you accept a challenge? If there is something you've always wanted to do - but didn't because you didn't have anyone to do it with - would you commit to doing it ALONE BEFORE January 31, 2005? Tell us what it is, and then report all about it???

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Mel
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There are many things that we all do alone on a weekly, daily basis. Go to the store, go to the post office, to the dry cleaner, to the bookstore, to Blockbuster, to get our hair cut, etc., etc. And some of this stuff we enjoy doing alone. That's not my point.
My point is this:
SEVERAL people in West's post (and others before) have commented that they have really wanted to see a movie - but didn't, because they had no one to go with. They REALLY wanted to go to an art museum, but they didn't, because they had no one to go with. They always wanted to take dance lessons, but they didn't, because they had no one to go with. That they really wanted to go to a concert, but they didn't, because they had no one to go with.
My point is is there something you have always really wanted to do - and the ONLY reason you have for not doing it is because you didn't have anyone to go with? I'm not talking about going to a wedding alone (misery - and who WANTS to go to a wedding alone?) or watching a movie at home alone - I'm talking about life passing you by, missing out on things you really want to do - because you don't have someone to do it with.
And this doesn't apply to just single people. Today is my parents' 31st wedding anniversary. And do you know what my mom is doing this weekend? She's going to see "O", a show on the Las Vegas strip. Alone. Do you know WHY? Because my dad HATES going to shows, with a passion, and in the 28 years they have lived in Las Vegas - she missed out on seeing numerous shows and acts that will never be here again (like Sinatra) and she's decided ENOUGH - if she wants to do something - even if she has to go alone - she's going to go!
THAT is what I mean. Going to Blockbuster to rent videos is NOT what I am talking about at all.
Mindy
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Have you gone to the movies alone?
No I never have but I should. There have been movies I didn't go see because I had noone to go with.
Besides when travelling for business, have you ever went to lunch or dinner at a sit down REAL restaurant (I'm not talking McDonald's here!) alone?
Yes. When I was on vacation in Vegas the last time, all my friends went home a day earlier than I did and I ate alone at a nice restaurant in the Mandalay Bay which was owned by Wolfgang Puck, but I don't think it was named after him. I believe it's no longer there, maybe you know? It was a little scary walking in to a nice restaurant alone. But I had a great meal and was glad I didn't decide to just get room service!
Have you ever taken a "fun" class (like cooking or wine tasting or dance, etc.) alone?
ANYTHING that you've done alone - share your experience. Gone to the beach alone alot. When the kids were with their dad and I was totally single, I had noone to go with so I would just go with my book. It's very relaxing and you can leave when you want to leave.
Flew to Vegas alone, I met friends there but it was the furthest I had ever flown alone. I was a little intimidated.
Gone to clubs alone to see a local band I really like. I felt kind of strange like I was weird to do it and boy did I get flack from my mother about it! But I had fun. I got to flirt with random people (I was single) and just enjoy myself without anyone looking over my shoulder. And the music is always good!
Not sure what else if anything.
Is there something you have always REALLY wanted to do but have never done because you didn't have someone to go with you? WHAT? Take a ballroom dancing class. I really want to do it. James won't. I can't imagine going alone though. You need a partner. And what if I got paired with some sleazy guy? That would be scary.
Taken sailing lessons.
Would you accept a challenge? If there is something you've always wanted to do - but didn't because you didn't have anyone to do it with - would you commit to doing it ALONE BEFORE January 31, 2005? Tell us what it is, and then report all about it???
Honestly, I know i'm not doing the ballroom or the sailing lessons right now because I don't have $ to spend on it with Christmas and then my trip coming up. But I can committ to going to a movie by myself before Jan 31. I should have done this long before now, so why not!
Tara
Didn't mean to upset you. But I did answer the post just before that and said there is something I wanted to do once the baby is born and I'm healed. Take karate and play paintball. I don't go to movies alone because I never really had to. But would if I was adamant about seeing something Shane wasn't into. And I don't dine alone because half the time, we're too broke to even eat at fast food places. So we eat at home.
I really didn't miss the point. I just added the things I do alone that others also pointed out they do too.
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Ya didn't upset me.
I just wanted to make sure you knew I wasn't talking about day in day out stuff - and not about being alone at home. I was talking specifically about NOT doing things you want to do (and for some people it's not movies - that was just an example) just because you don't have someone to do them with.
And Mel - now isn't a good time to play paintball!!!! -wink- (which, by the way, hurts a heck of alot more than I ever anticipated it hurting. I played paint ball at a company retreat - team building - thing a majiggie - and I ended up with GIANT, dark, painful bruises wherever I was hit with a paint ball! I think the pressure on the guns we used was WAY too high!!!! Ever since then - I stick with laser tag - - - no bruises!)
Mindy
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I wish we had a laser tag place around here. I know of a paint ball place though. I just always wanted to do it. I figured I'd get some bruises and it would hurt, but I just wanted to get out there and shoot at people. Especially after a hard week.
Of course, laser tag would complete the same mission. If I can find it here. I'm sure there isn't one too far. The thing is....Shane said he's interested too, but he's always so busy, I feel like I will HAVE to do it alone, which is no big deal. Even though it would be more fun with friends than alone. If I want to bad enough, I'll go alone.
As for normal everyday things. Yeah, I do all that alone. But there are some people out there that just NEED a buddy for shopping, the salon, other stuff. Moral support or just liking the company of others. I personally love shopping alone. Shane always offers to take me shopping and I think it hurts his feelings a little that I refuse to let him. But shooping for me is a personal thing. I like to take my time. Hey, I'm spending lots of money on clothes, here!
Anyway, I know what you meant by the question. I definitely can't make a committment to do anything BY January, 2005, but I can commit by then to do it sometime. LOL!
Mel
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How about a shooting range? I had the best time at those when I was younger. I remember the first time I shot a glock, I was aiming for the target's crotch area, but the bullet ended up going through its forehead. LOL
Edited to add: Ofcourse all that noise might scare the baby, so you should probably wait on that too.
Edited 11/16/2004 5:21 pm ET ET by orange_clouds
Actually, Shane took me to a shooting range before I found out I was pregnant. It was GREAT! He owns a pistol (his body cavity air conditoner) and I was scared to death of it. I even cried when he tried to hand it to me at first in the kitchen. But I eventually got the courage up to hold it and he showed me how to handle it. I loved shooting. I did very well too. Right thru the center of the target. Very liberating. I doubt I'd go alone just yet because I'm not entirely confident with the gun, nor do I know the type of ammo to use so I'd feel stupid. I doubt Shane would ever allow me to take that gun out alone anyway. It was his father's. Means a lot.
But I do intend to go again once I've had the baby and gotten a sitter for a few hours.
Mel
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Have you gone to the movies alone? No! I have been thinking about this too.
Besides when travelling for business, have you ever went to lunch or dinner at a sit down REAL restaurant (I'm not talking McDonald's here!) alone? Yes, and although it was slightly akward, I did like the feeling. Just different.
Have you ever taken a "fun" class (like cooking or wine tasting or dance, etc.) alone? No, but I think at this point in my life I would LOVE to! Especially the wine tasting or cooking class. That'd be fun!
ANYTHING that you've done alone - share your experience. - I can't think of anything else (except the above restaurant bit) that really counts as an out of the ordinary "alone" activity.
Is there something you have always REALLY wanted to do but have never done because you didn't have someone to go with you? WHAT? As I said, the cooking class thing. OR cake decorating. I'd love to learn that and keep waiting for my mom to do it with me. That's so dumb. I could GO DO IT!
Would you accept a challenge? If there is something you've always wanted to do - but didn't because you didn't have anyone to do it with - would you commit to doing it ALONE BEFORE January 31, 2005? Tell us what it is, and then report all about it??? Let me find out about the cake decorating. If nothing else, I'll do the movie and report back. Why this is weird for me, I don't know. But I think it'd be a huge deal if I could do it. It goes hand in hand with my "recovery from self esteem issues". A few years ago, I wouldn't have done it because "people would have thought I was pathetic with no friends" LOL!!!! Would definitely be good for me.
>>>Would you accept a challenge? If there is something you've always wanted to do - but didn't because you didn't have anyone to do it with - would you commit to doing it ALONE BEFORE January 31, 2005? Tell us what it is, and then report all about it???<<<
I finally thought of something. Going to New York. I moved to PA in 1998 and I've never been to NY city. I've driven past it on my way north, but never seen it. I keep waiting for someone to take me. When I was married my ex-h went several times with friends but didn't invite me. My parents we talking last night about going on their next visit, and I asked if they would take me. Then I remembered this thread and though, oh that is something I'm afraid to do on my own.
I am not sure about a challenge. What would you ladies do? Would you go to NYC alone? I'm thinking about it. I'll also have to think if I have the money to do it. But I could commit that if nobody goes with me in the next year I will find a way to go myself. I think I could do it.
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