Don't know how i feel about MM

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Don't know how i feel about MM
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 9:17am

I have good news and bad news about MM... The good news, he invited me over for watching Heroes after work and i accepted. I felt encouraged because we've seen each other everyday since Friday... I joked and asked if he had popcorn and he laughed cuz he did. So we had popcorn and watched our favorite show together. We had a really fun short time as we watched the show.


BUT why do i still feel like only friends when we are together? It's like i want to feel more but i dont' right now. Maybe things will develop or maybe there isn't enough chemistry?


I get a sense that he really likes me... but then, he doesn't say anything. For example,

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 9:25am
I totally know how you feel. I had that same issue with someone I dated last week. I had gone out with him twice and I decided that after two dates, their was NOTHING. When I went out with J, it was completely the opposite. I realized I didn't want to date someone, just to date, no chemistry and hope it'll turn into it. The reality is, that isn't the real deal in my opinion. You want someone that you have some urging feelings towards. Not some guy that you could care less if he made a move or not. Who knows. It seems you liked this guy, maybe your just discouraged because he hasn't made a move yet. But then, do you want someone that doesn't seem very affectionate? I can't imagine you would. I know I wouldn't. I know by the end of the week, you'll have your mind made up. Just look deep in your gut. The gut instinct is always right.
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 9:40am

What a curious fellow. I don't know too many guys who invite a girl over, email and text to just be a friend. Did you feel ANY indication that he MIGHT make a move? That he is shy? I went on a date recently with a guy who was really nice and funny and I knew immediately that there wasn't a snowballs chance in hell that I would ever lean over and kiss him.

I had a situation similar to this when I was a senior in college. I was crazy about the guy, we hung out with the same crowd, we could talk and talk, my roommate tried subtly to get him together with me (her BF and this guy were in a band together), but nothing ever happened. It was confusing and disappointing to be sure. The guy wasn't even dating anyone and didn't for the rest of the school year! I thought there must be something wrong with me because I knew he liked me, but nada.

On another note...did you find a sitter? I had another idea...my brother once had an awesome nanny who brought her own kid (I know you have a crew, so that might not work). The flexibility worked for her, and she wound up working for my brother for 5 years.

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 9:59am

it is curious, isn't it?


thanks for the well wishes about the sitter... i'm visiting a potential sitter today. looks promising.

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 1:48pm

Well dang it, Loony! Talk about anti-climatic. Here I am WAITING for the update where you go to watch Heroes...MM grazes your hand in the popcorn bowl...then suddenly you lock eyes and he goes in for the hottest kiss of the century..the popcorn goes flying bit neither of you care. Then he pins you on the couch and neither of you even SEE the rest of Heroes but you just don't care. The room heats up....OK... LOL!!!! Sorry I'll stop now!!


Seriously though..I'm not sure waht to think. He seemed to give all the "interested" cues. Is he painfully shy? But even if he is, I would be a bit turned off by his not making any effort to be affectionate. If you are affectionate and he isnt that is not a match. It just seems like your getting the friends vibe. Its hard to say!


Sure you could give it more time but matbe not hold your breath that he is going to turn into mr fireworks. Kepp your eyes out for others..why wait around for MM to show more assertive interest. Afterall you went in for the hug...its up to him to do something!


Keep on keepin' on! Have fun at your meetups and my advice would be to keep looking for that perfect Lonny match :o)

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 3:17pm

Ok, now I think you're just trying to talk yourself into MM for our sakes.


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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 6:47pm

i know... anti-climactic is right ;-)


my impression when he invited me over was he was going to make a move... or something to indicate his truth feelings for me... puzzling because what guy would invite a girl over just to be "friends"..


today he sent me two emails, too. both just tid bits in relation to the conversation that we had all weekend... like "check out this song" or "this article" kinda thing. perhaps it's the case of chemistry of the mind but not of the body?


I'm going to give it a little more time before casting him into the recycle bin of friendship. But i will also allow myself to look elsewhere as well..


like i have another date tonight... y'all don't want to know who it's with...


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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 7:15pm

That can happen... mental chemistry and no physical connection. Yea, maybe just a bit more time to see if anything is there....


OK so WHO is the date tonight???? Don't tease us lol!!

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 7:55pm

i probably shouldn't have used the word "date"... and the culprit is H4.


I ran into him playing pool a week ago or so... and i didn't RUN in the other direction. I thought, how bad can a game of pool be??


I have NO intention of getting involved but i'm going to hang out with him again. He

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 8:15pm

MM appears to be slow moving. I would stick around and see where it goes. He has made progress though. Give him some more time and let him know you are interested.

Laurie

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