"Don't read into anything I've said"....

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Registered: 10-24-2006
"Don't read into anything I've said"....
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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 2:02pm

What does that mean?! Holy cow, I am so used to feeling "in control" of the situation and "own my feelings" etc then that kind of went out the window.


NC stopped over this afternoon for a quick hello and to pick up some brownies I had made for the office (the office was expected them, of course no one there has any idea about the chat NC & I had the other day) so he comes to the door and of course the kids are all over him so after I ushered them into the playroom to get a few minutes quiet, NC asks how I am and I said "It's been a week from hell, but don't worry, not to do with our talk, but to do with outside stuff not related to us" and he said "Oh, I'm sorry. I'm struggling too, with this I mean." Then he went on to say "You are right, I'm probably not ready for this, you deserve to find someone who's ready right now. I wish I could, I don't know what i mean. This hurts but it makes sense" We kept getting interrupted and both of us were kind of stammering stuff out but not really making sense. Then he said a couple things that made me kind of crinkle my face in confusion and then he had to get going because he was late for a meeting already but wanted to stop in. As he was leaving he said "I'll call you Monday. We'll have coffee and chat. Don't read into anything I just said. Right now I mean." Which totally left me thinking ok, he just said he wants me to find someone and be happy, he also said he wishes that he could. He also said he's not ready, he doesn't think. ARRRRGH WHY IS THIS SO CONFUSING!!! I am all geared up to go out with Mechanic (I'm changing his name to Mechanic not Mr. Mechanic because I was short forming it to MM which is the same as loony as don't want to confuse anyone lol) so I have a date with Mechanic tomorrow night, and he's being super sweet and wonderful and then seeing NC today kind of through my stomach in knots. I just get this feeling, deep down, that this isn't it for NC & I. But I can't pin point it more than that. I'm really trying to give Mechanic a shot, but I find myself talking to him on the phone, but thinking about NC. I think this weekend will be a needed break for both of us. He's going down to see his kids for the weekend. I'm going out tonight with my cousin to see CATS on Broadway, and then my date tomorrow night with Mechanic.

 

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Registered: 08-28-2008

The way I read that was that when he said "I'll call you monday, have coffee, chat" he followed that up with "don't read anything into that I just said right now". Meaning don't read anything intothe call/chat/coffee on Monday.


From everything you say, it seems that although he is hurt like you are, he knows that this is right (ending things right now). he sounds ready to confront the issues with his wife and see what is going to happen with his family and he needs to focus on that. It just sounds like that is what he is saying. And in all honesty I know that hurts but its the only way. He has to deal with the reality of things.


(((Hugs)))). I know this sucks but I encourage you to go out, with mechanic or friends, just to move forward and not dwell on what can not be changed right now.

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