eHarmony Questions

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 2:17pm

So this comes under "Going slow" or not.

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In reply to: mhash
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 4:12pm

you wanted to go to Hawaii - I thought oh dear heavens we need to find this one a lei first.


ROFL!!!! I just caught that!!

~Pacific~
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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 4:26pm

1. What did you learn about yourself from your last relationship? That I'm not soley responsible for their emotional well being, that I can only enhance it. We can only suppliment happiness, we can't invent it for someone. (hows that for a killjoy answer? lol.)


2. What would you change about yourself in order to have a successful relationship? Trust more openly and learn to let go in wild abandon sometimes. We only live once!


3. What is love to you? When you can't imagine living life without the other, because you truly feel joy and passion with them, and your life feels complete with them. Love is an action we do freely and willingly without gruge or resentment. Love is everywhere you find it.


The questions I would ask if

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 4:36pm

1) What do you think is the number one reason for beak-ups? What do you think is the number one thing that keeps people together?


Break-ups: unwillingness for both parties to work on their relationship


Keep together: working on the assumption and belief that their partner is doing the best they can, not to sweat the small stuff, and forgiveness


2) Describe a typical week in your life including after work hours. How and what would change (if anything) if you entered into a long term relationships?


I work out.

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 5:10pm

Mark--I know that you are just being open and honest but if I saw "sexually engaging and accepting" in a reply I would NEXT them--that is just me and maybe I am an oddity--I know that sexuality is an important part of the puzzle but I don't like it being brought up in the beginning of anything (am I a prude?)

April

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 5:22pm

I would not allude to anything about sex in my real responses (something I learned from this forum).

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 8:04pm

Okay - am back now after a very hard bike ride and then home-made fish dinner - LOL!!

1. What did you learn about yourself from your last relationship?
That I am wonderful the way I am and I have to be myself and wait for the right person to come along and see that what I have to offer is very good. And I have learned what I want and what I do not want and have to stick to that - no dating down!

2. What would you change about yourself in order to have a successful relationship?
I do not think I have to change anything. I have been single for 7 years - so am settled - live a very organized life. Am happy in my skin. Have learned a lot in this time. Just need the right person for me. Add man and stir so to speak - LOL!!

3. What is love to you? Love is a peaceful and happy state where you know the person well enough to know what is good and bad - and you accept them for just the way they are - and you are better off for them being in your life and you do not have to change for them - you have a deep trust and good friendship and are able to bare your soul so to speak - you are not afraid to be intimate.

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 10:09pm

I like question two. Its easy to answer and not too intrusive.

Question one can be used as a dissertation topic. Way too broad. One can go on and on for days on that subject. Plus you will find the reasons for breakups vary 180 degrees. There are way too many.

Question three is interesting but is there an ideal relationship? Why would one work towards ideal? Does it have to be ideal? Maybe thats too lofty a goal. Plus you are going to get lots of adjectives but might not get any insight into the person you are questioning.

Honestly, I dont think you can find out a whole lot about a person in eharmony's set of questions in the first place and I dont think you can really learn a lot about someone just by emailing and chatting with them. I have met someone (the guy I told you about on the phone) who's fitnesssingles.com profile was dull and boring. His picture was not so good and I had no expectations for anything before we met. Then I met him and he is so different in person. Truly handsome. Makes my knees weak and heart skip a beat when I see him. An interesting and in depth personality. Deep. Morals. I have been dating him and have been his friend for over a year and I learn more about him everyday.

Those profiles show you the tip of the iceberg and those eharmony questions or only the tip of the tip.

Dont worry too much about them. Your unique personality will present itself in time.

Laurie

trying to shake off the lei'd remark. hahaha.

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Fri, 05-09-2008 - 3:59pm
I was just thinking - do you ever take a yoga class? Or a meditation meetup? Because I think you would have the numbers very much in your favor - and meet a like-minded soul that way - especially with the yoga. Just a thought!
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Fri, 05-09-2008 - 4:09pm

Oh yeah... them yoga babes are fit.

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Fri, 05-09-2008 - 4:38pm

I guess I should answer my own questions here as well ....


1. What did you learn about yourself from your last relationship?

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