embarrassing

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Registered: 12-30-2005
embarrassing
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Sun, 06-01-2008 - 10:33am

hello everyone,


I have only posted a couple times. Been married for 18 years, newly divorced. Anyway, i have been seeing a guy for about 3 weeks. Things are great, we enjoy the same things, fishing, movies..etc.


Ok, the embarrassing thing.. :(


He came over to my place for the first time. I only wanted him to come into the garage because we were sorting out tools. I have a 6 month old puppy, and my carpet is quite stained from housebreaking him. I had plans on shampooing it the next day. I didn't want him to come into the house until I had it cleaned up.


But he asked to use the washroom, what was i supposed to say.. "NO"? lol


So he saw the carpet and was quite disgusted. I am renting here, so a lot of the stains are from before I moved in, but still it is pretty bad. :( He brought it up later, and was kind of teasing me about it, but not in a meean way.


I can't help but feel he thinks I am a dirty person now,. It's hard to keep a super clean house when you are single and have 2 teenage boys and work full time, and have a puppy. whew...


Anyway, it's just embarrassing that he saw what he did, before I had a chance to make my house presentable.


Any related stories might make me feel better..LOL

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 10:41am
Oh yes!
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Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 11:08am

I wouldn't worry too much about it... I'm sure he understands. If you've explained it to him once, then that should be enough. If he is going to hold your teen boy/puppy-filled carpet against you, then he's not a keeper! Especially when you were planning on shampooing soon anyway. He really shouldn't judge the "before"- because we ALL have had some pretty nasty "befores", I'm sure!


I know my house gets plenty cluttered and messy at times, and Hiker never says anything. I just offer a disclaimer before he comes in, saying it's a mess, and he never says anything except maybe "mine is the same". So we have a good understanding between us- we've seen each of our houses in good shape, we've both seen each of our houses while trashed. And we know that's just LIFE. Especially when we have young kids living there!!


His house is MUCH messier when his grandkids are there... and then he's in a frenzy trying to get the carpets cleaned after! He's more particular about clean carpets than I am (I'm thankful I don't have hardly ANY carpets here- because they are SOOO hard to keep clean!)!


So really- if your man is worth keeping, then he should understand. Especially with a puppy in the house! I swear- new puppies all have leaks and you wanna go grab some caulking to stop the leak! lol


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 11:12am
I'm in the process of ripping carpets up.
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Registered: 09-21-2006
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 11:37am

LOL, you should see my bedroom carpet! Kids, pets and remodeling- uch! My BF came over right after I spent the time and money to rent a steam cleaner and get it cleaned up and said," Hey, I thought you cleaned this carpet." It needs to be replaced, but I'm doing that last, after all the other work is done. It really is disgusting. But I vacuum so it isn't dirty per se, just very stained.
We, as moms and as women, tend to get way too caught up in the expectation that our homes have to be pristine. Life happens. My house is cluttered and messy, I say it is a sign we are living busy productive lives, we're not robots.

QueenBun

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 3:06pm
Honey, if he judges you on that, then he isnt the guy for you.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 3:47pm
That is a good point, Rlch. We all can't be dressed like Barbie with a house that looks like it was owned by Marth all the time. "Living" is all about various stages and doing the best that we can. And dear heavens - a puppy is a lot of work. But it sounds to me like the puppy and kids are happy and you are doing the best that you can!
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Registered: 03-19-2008
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 5:34pm

Yep. Happened to me too. I have this parrot that lives on an open perch/playground sort of thing. My first time bringing him over to the house we had been out all day and the bird had scattered its seed all over the dining room. The floor was covered. Not a pretty site. But an understanding

anonymous
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Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 6:10pm

You have a PUPPY?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 8:20pm
Girl, if he is going to judge you over stained carpet then tell him to take a flying leap somewhere.
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: takhississ17
Sun, 06-01-2008 - 9:26pm

With three shedding dogs and two shedding cats, my carpets are trashed.

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