EMT Cancelled date to see another woman

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EMT Cancelled date to see another woman
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 7:22am

So EMT calls up Sunday and says he got a chance to go see the Red Sox play that night "with a friend" and was wondering if I would mind if he canceled our date. I said no, its one of the last Sox games so go have fun. Well last night I meet up with EMT and during the small talk I asked who he saw the game with. His reply was "Leslie". And then came a long winded explanation of how she couldnt find someone to go and it was a make up game from a rain out the day before so she asked him last minute.

Part of me thinks its cool. It was a friend and I have to trust him. But another part of me says 'hey, you canceled a date with me to go out with another woman'. And they were out until 2am. I have such mixed feelings about this. Its not that I am jealous. Its the issue of canceling our date to go out with another woman, friend or not. Its a weird feeling.

Laurie

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 9:13am
I agree, I'd have mixed feelings too!
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 9:21am

maybe it's not that he wanted to spend time with another woman but that he wanted to see the game. maybe he didn't even realize you would see it the way that you are seeing it... you know how guys are with the sports and stuff... just a thought.


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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 1:36pm

I would feel wierd about that. Do they have a dating history? I would chalk this one up for what he is saying it is...nothing, but keep it in mind if she comes up again for another reason. Not that you need to be jealous or suspiscious but at the same time you can be wise and keep up with the vibe and intuition you get.


I know that guys CAN be plationic with women friends. BE still has lunch with a woman friend if his

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 1:49pm

It gets weirder. EMT just called and during the conversation he told me that his ex wife called earlier and asked him if he wanted to go on a cruise with her. WTF??!! I am ok with him being friends with his ex but going on a vacation with her is where I draw the line. I thought I found someone normal, interesting, grounded and well into the things I like. But I am not so sure anymore.

Laurie

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 2:01pm

OK that IS wierd. What did he tell her? How long have they been divorced. Do they do things together regularly for the kids?


I'm sorry I don't remember- did you two have to exclusive talk yet? Going on a cruise with the ex wife would be crossing the line for me.

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 2:02pm

Well now, I couldn't say much about going to the game with her, if she is truly a friend.

 
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 2:04pm

You have my head in a spin on this one. How long has he been divorced? Regardless its tooooo much for me. Sorry for the bucketload of weirdness coming at you. Keep us posted on how things progress...keep your guard up though, anymore signs

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 2:04pm
I agree it's getting weirder! Do you think he's purposely trying to make you jealous? Maybe just to get a satisfaction that you were? Some guys and women do that? I think it's odd and agree with Pac that I would have to draw the line some place. I also re-thought about him being out till 2a.m. with her and that would have upset me too. My X husband once went out with a bunch of women colleagues until 4 a.m.. He told me about it, but I flipped out nonetheless. No need to be out with ANY woman past midnight. Be colleague or friend. JMHO.
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 2:11pm

We had the exclusive talk before it got physical. We both agreed. They have been divorced for a few years. Its not for the kids. His youngest is 21 and they are from his first relationship. He told me once that every woman he's seen since his divorce has broken up with him because he is still friends with his ex. I guess his definition of friends and is much different than everyone elses.

Laurie

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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 2:19pm
Read my post about my X husband still seeing me as his best friend. I know we'd go on vaca together. But that's us, regardless of our kids. Hes' fun, but i have no tempation to ever be wtih him again and vice versa.

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