EMT Cancelled date to see another woman
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| Tue, 09-30-2008 - 7:22am |
So EMT calls up Sunday and says he got a chance to go see the Red Sox play that night "with a friend" and was wondering if I would mind if he canceled our date. I said no, its one of the last Sox games so go have fun. Well last night I meet up with EMT and during the small talk I asked who he saw the game with. His reply was "Leslie". And then came a long winded explanation of how she couldnt find someone to go and it was a make up game from a rain out the day before so she asked him last minute.
Part of me thinks its cool. It was a friend and I have to trust him. But another part of me says 'hey, you canceled a date with me to go out with another woman'. And they were out until 2am. I have such mixed feelings about this. Its not that I am jealous. Its the issue of canceling our date to go out with another woman, friend or not. Its a weird feeling.
Laurie

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Laurie,
I think doing things with female friends is fine, and he likely avoided mentioning it to begin with because he didn't know what your reaction would be, and he REALLY wanted to see the game.
Yeah I guess its good he is up front and honest about it. I called him back and talked more about it. I asked him if he was going to go on the cruise with her if they would share a room and he said yes because its cheaper that way. AAAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!!! I think if they went on this cruise together and shared a room thats where I would step out and say 'this isnt what I expected by exclusive.' I tried to get him to understand my trepidation by saying what if it were I that was going on a cruise with my ex husband or cancelling dates to go out with a single man would you feel a little hurt? And he said no. I dont believe that for one minute.
I am going to go running with my ipod on as loud as I can get it now. Thats my alternative to drinking.
Laurie
I am surprised she even asked him to go with her knowing he is seeing me. Maybe they had an open relationship and this was the norm for them. I dont know and its all a little maddening and weird to me.
Got to go my ipod and running shoes are calling me.
Laurie
How I look at is that he would rather spend the time, money, and keep company with his ex rather than with you.
For me, it is more about sharing intimacy (i.e. same
Hey I gotta drink with YOU precious!
Before I even saw your comment about putting on your running shoes, my first thought was...
R U N !!!!
I'm friends with my ex but would never, ever go on vacation with him especially if I was seeing someone.
I think that is what has been bothering me. EMT was like, 'why would that bother you? Its not like I am sleeping with her or anything.' What bothers me is that, yeah, he is spending time and money and close quarters with another woman. Totally inappropriate, if you ask me that is.
Laurie
Jealous of your ride. All it did in freakin New England is rain all weekend long, including Friday. Yuck.
Laurie
Maybe if he invited you to join him and his ex wife for dinner or on vacation, then I wouldn't see the big deal... but just him and her doesn't sit right for me.
Have you met the ex wife? Has he talked about you meeting her?
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