Enabling my Ex?
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Enabling my Ex?
| Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:00pm |
So last night I was reminded again a major reason that I left my marriage. But my DD stays with him on some evenings and now I am a little concerned.
My Ex is really really bad with finances, very irresponsible. When we were married he would spend money on video games and electronics instead of bills. He is also very messy and lazy and has fought depression and ADHD. Somehow through working nights and going to school he is managing to get his degree this month.
He was to have DD last night till 9pm. He called me at

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Very good plan.
Ugh..I feel bad because I did not know it but MY phone was out of battery power. She did not know that she could have texted BE on his phone. I will tell her that for future reference...
Thank you for you words and encouragement :o)
Thanks for that validation, M.
In your case I know it is a horrible mess right now- and I knew I could come here and you and
Your poor dd... I think that would be a very scary situation.
I admit- it makes me angry at him for being this way. I have always been the responsible one and therefore he gets to act like a kid and get away with it..always has. It ticks me off that I am always the one making sacrifices while he does nothing but buys games and junk.
Hey Pac, I see someone else suggested what
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
SHE comes 1st. Whether or not you are enabling him, making his life easier, letting him off the hook of parenting ... whatever else there is ... none of it matters, NOR will it make him better or worse of a parent b/c he's not going to change - HER comfort & safety & security comes 1st.
Lord knows I know THAT from Taz. I have gone so far as to, after dd called me crying she was hungry & had no food, to send over a small pizza paid over the phone by me, to her at his house. I have packed her food & snacks b/c sometimes he wont provide them. Is it enabling him? Letting him off the hook? Yep. But I dont care b/c he isnt responsible NOR caring enough to give a crap, or think ahead & plan for her.
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
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