I am sorry that it went that way. I see how its tough on you. I am the same way.
You know, I read that guys are emotionally unconnected and keep things on the surface. But now I think thats all hogwash and an excuse for some men to not have to deal with the situation at hand. The three men I have had long relationships with were all VERY emotionally connected and had no problem discussing feelings and deep issues. Plus I know many other men who are emotionally connected.
I agree with Shrimps - on all points. Sweetkymom, I hope you can get this sorted out so it is best for you. Sounds like you had good intuition about him pulling back - but also sounds like he had a valid reason - but also sounds like it is something that can be fixed if you both put your heads to it.
"I read that guys are emotionally unconnected and keep things on the surface. But now I think thats all hogwash and an excuse for some men to not have to deal with the situation at hand. The three men I have had long relationships with were all VERY emotionally connected and had no problem discussing feelings and deep issues. Plus I know many other men who are emotionally connected."
I agree. My ex used to use this excuse. After 20 years I realized he simply had NO emotions. Well, I realized it a lot earlier on, just didn't want to admit it.
Now I am seeing someone who has no problem asking me what I am thinking and telling me the same. It feels really weird.
Oh, my God, I do the exact same thing. I panicked last week thinking I had been dumped. It made me so sad. A few days later, I get a phone message packed with apologies, followed up by a phone call with more, followed by daily calls.
I hate that I resort to panic so quickly. I think I got used to bad treatment by the ex and am convinced that I am somehow unworthy of someone liking me. Or maybe got used to feeling so bad about myself, that it almost feels normal to continue feeling bad.
But I also think it was hormones, too. PMS at 44 is something else!
I guess I have been lucky. I have only experienced that once and it was with RG. My other long term relationships stayed on course from day one. This is why I was thrown for a loop when RG went from being romantic, flirty and sexy to 'lets keep this casual'. I wonder was the initial course was all for show, then when he got the girl his real intentions came out.
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I am sorry that it went that way. I see how its tough on you. I am the same way.
You know, I read that guys are emotionally unconnected and keep things on the surface. But now I think thats all hogwash and an excuse for some men to not have to deal with the situation at hand. The three men I have had long relationships with were all VERY emotionally connected and had no problem discussing feelings and deep issues. Plus I know many other men who are emotionally connected.
I think the ones who dont connect and
I agree with Shrimps - on all points. Sweetkymom, I hope you can get this sorted out so it is best for you. Sounds like you had good intuition about him pulling back - but also sounds like he had a valid reason - but also sounds like it is something that can be fixed if you both put your heads to it.
I hope you enjoy your trip!!
"I read that guys are emotionally unconnected and keep things on the surface. But now I think thats all hogwash and an excuse for some men to not have to deal with the situation at hand. The three men I have had long relationships with were all VERY emotionally connected and had no problem discussing feelings and deep issues. Plus I know many other men who are emotionally connected."
I agree. My ex used to use this excuse. After 20 years I realized he simply had NO emotions. Well, I realized it a lot earlier on, just didn't want to admit it.
Now I am seeing someone who has no problem asking me what I am thinking and telling me the same. It feels really weird.
Oh, my God, I do the exact same thing. I panicked last week thinking I had been dumped. It made me so sad. A few days later, I get a phone message packed with apologies, followed up by a phone call with more, followed by daily calls.
I hate that I resort to panic so quickly. I think I got used to bad treatment by the ex and am convinced that I am somehow unworthy of someone liking me. Or maybe got used to feeling so bad about myself, that it almost feels normal to continue feeling bad.
But I also think it was hormones, too. PMS at 44 is something else!
I think handle intimacy.
I guess I have been lucky. I have only experienced that once and it was with RG. My other long term relationships stayed on course from day one. This is why I was thrown for a loop when RG went from being romantic, flirty and sexy to 'lets keep this casual'. I wonder was the initial course was all for show, then when he got the girl his real intentions came out.
Laurie
OMG - I can totally understand where you're coming from on this startover.
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