The end of Medic...
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| Wed, 09-03-2008 - 10:48am |
It almost ended very ugly, and I'm never the type to beg or chase, but in this case I did and I'm glad I did. He cancelled, I got ticked off, he finally ended things. FINALLY... I've been feeling like he was waiting for me to do it or something. Anyway, I just felt like no this isn't right.. I don't want to end things like this on a bad note so I called him and he sent me to voicemail lol. So I sent a text for him to get on yahoo, he said no, I cracked a joke and finally he got on. So so so NOT in my character to beg like that.
So, bottom line is that we like eachother a lot, timing is horrible, his behavior has to do with everythign going on in his life with school, lack of money.. he finally admitted that he has no business dating (hello! lol) and that he needs to focus on his life for the next six months. I agreed 100%, and we're going to attempt to pick things back up in Feb if I'm still single.
I really liked him, and I'm very hurt and sad. Medic has been a pisser latly we all know, but there's a reason why I fell for him. I'm sad that part is over... very sad. Damn I'm going to miss him :(

Oh wow.
I know it hurts because you were into him, but at least now
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Sorry things ended..... it seemed like a clean break up, though. He told you what was up and yes, now you can move on without playing things over and over in your head. Look over the article i posted about a successful break up... in there are also tips that say if you follow those "rules" the person might regret breaking it off.
And as for that myspace guy you mentioned about finding a girlfriend... i remember that story. You made a good judgement NOT to get involved with him because of the drama of his recent seperation. You didn't need that. So what if he went ahead and got a girlfriend. It's still too soon for something like him to be in a relationship. You probably dodge a bullet with that guy. Don't feel bad.
There are millions of other guys .... go forth and conquer.
Hugs,
Loonybunny
Oh I'm sorry, TJ-
This sucks. You know, I'm not one to beg either but in this case you got closure by getting him to tell you what's up. And I'm glad you got that. Now you can move on. Don't waste any energy even entertaining the thought of waiting for him (you know..kind of putting off other guys thinking medic will come around). Go out there and see who is there, someone else is much more desereving of your attention!
Hugs!!!!! I'm so sorry this ended. I'm sending you virtual chocolate right now.
((HUGS)) So sorry you are going through this.
My relationship with 3 Month Fling Guy ended exactly the same way. It hurt, I gave myself 2 weeks to deal with the loss then put myself right back out there. I met M 1 month later and we've been together for over 2 years. You know Medic was not, is not, the right guy- fun yes, but not right for you for the long term. Whatever his current situation, he's shown you he is not the kind of reliable, concerned guy you want. That whole passive/aggressive waiting for you to call it quits is not good.
Give yourself some time to regain some equilibrium after this past weekend of emotional trauma.
((Hugs))
QB
((((HUGS))))
Is the closure better than being in limbo? I'm very sad for the way you're feeling right now :( While I can fully understand the way you handled it and chasing when its so out of character, I think we all have done something out of our character before. Perhaps in 6 mths, you guys will come together again and work out. And if you do, great. And if you don't well thatw ould be OK too. I'm a firm believer of if its meant to be, it just has a way of falling into place with little effort from us. (((HUGS)))
I hope youre not single in Feb because you deserve someone who has time and resources for you.
Laurie
I think this is a perfect time for you to think about what you want vs how you can make him want you.