Etiquette regarding the Widower.....
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Etiquette regarding the Widower.....
| Thu, 03-06-2008 - 8:48am |
Ok, so the Widower, which I REALLY have to re-nickname, sent me a VERY extensive and nice email. In part of it, he wrote this:
I've only been on match for a few weeks. To be honest, you're the first person I have exchanged more than 2 emails with. Some of the people I get 'winks' from have been a little strange as well. One woman even emailed directly and wanted to bring over dinner for me and the kids - OK, don't know you, never met you, but sure bring over dinner...not going to happen! You really have to weed out some of the weird stuff, but I guess like anything, even internet chat takes some work and time to find the right kinds of people or person.

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I haven't had a chance to read all of the other responses so please forgive me
He sent me an incredibly LONG email. We wont' see each other for another week. I do think that I will ask him in an email form in this format before we meet:
"You seem like a man who has a great head on his shoulders and I hope you do not take this as intrusive or foreward, but I wanted to
Okay, I'll chime in with the BTDT point of view.
No!
I feel that too and I feel that in his profile. I don't think I need to act like it's a huge awkward subject. I want him to feel its ok to talk about but that I'm not some busy body. I often also wish people would just get the questions out and not tiptoe around me when asking about my children and their fathers. I think my worry is not to make him sound like I'm pitying him or feel sorry for him, but also that Im not getting into his business. I don't want to seem insensitive but also no tip toeing. I think because we have exchanged 4 emails back and forth and we have a LOT of similiarities, that it seems appropriate now to ask. He writes in his profile this:
Well, since the 'incident', I've learned a lot about life and a lot about myself. See...I'm a widower/single dad with 2 kids, a good career, a great family and awesome friends...but I need someone else in the picture...someone to share my experiences with, but also someone to learn from. Someone to create new memories with, but also someone willing to share their past...that's where someone out there, hopefully you, comes into the picture.
That to me indicates he's ready to share his past too.
Yes, I agree he probably is open to sharing his past.
I've been single for 3 three years.
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