Ever feel like this

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Registered: 09-05-2003
Ever feel like this
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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 8:53am
I have been with my bf for about 5 months now. Since the day we met we fell in love and have been with each other since the day we met. We have talked about everything from moving in to marriage. I think he is truley the one for me. I just feel like and maybe its just me, and forget what everyday life is someone, but for me i feel like that soso in love feeling is fading and like, well for example recently im like well ill just through on my old comfy sweats instead of how i used to get all cute and have cute pjs on at night, and i feel like im falling into the getting used to someone being around and i loved how we were just a couple weeks ago but now i lost that lovey feeling and feel like a old married couple? any feedback would be great
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 10:13am
I think some relationships that start off really strong - to the point you are spending every day together and talking about the future in the first few months of the relationship - tend to fizzle rather quickly and unexpectedly. This may or may not be the case in your situation. It's normal to sleep in something cute in the beginning, and revert to your comfy sweats when you are more comfortable in the relationship. But if you feel the love is fading already, it might be that it was more infatuation than love. Lasting love takes time to develop, the same with trust and respect, all of which are important. It's okay to be the old married couple cuddling on the couch in old clothes watching tv together, but you can still get dressed up and go out once in a while. Maybe just let the relationship continue on and see how you feel in a couple weeks. How do you feel about him? About the idea of a life with him? About spending every day with him? Have those feelings changed too?

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 10:17am

I think you are just spending too much time together and are burning out on each other. You have to "ration" time spent so you maintain individuality and keep things fresh.

I think it is okay to get comfortable - but you need to keep a zip in things, too.