ever given an ultimatum or sort of ...

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 5:15pm

Hi all,


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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 7:03pm
You took the words right out of my mouth!
Cat
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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 8:14pm

isysmoon... it would upset me alot, if Hiker ever suggested ring-shopping only to end a fight!!! Thankfully, no rings or weddings or marriages are discussed between us. I know we are committed to each other, but don't need that kind of thing to prove anything. But if were to fight, and he brought something like that up... I might lose trust in him. Talking about rings and making a bigger commitment in the midst of a fight, just seems to make the ring a "weapon" of sorts. To pull that out just to end a fight. I hope EG doesn't do that to you often.


Learningtofly... are you my twin?? I was also married for 7 yrs, and got married for the wrong reasons. I knew before I married that it wasn't fully "right"... but I was also feeling the clock ticking (more for what I thought family expected of me, more than I really felt it ticking for myself)... and when he asked, I took him up on it (as I hadn't had ANY offers before that, ever). We had problems even before we had kids, and having the kids didn't make things any better. I love the kids and that part was better- having them, but it didn't repair the marriage any, or make

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 8:24pm

isysmoon... it would upset me alot, if Hiker ever suggested ring-shopping only to end a fight!!!


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Thu, 04-10-2008 - 9:04am

Hi learning,


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Thu, 04-10-2008 - 9:11am

I hope you get that magical moment soon.


I personally didnt think about it that muh.. Since we were spending all the time together at my place anyways, it was just a matter of doing it in house now. We had talked about getting married and being together for ever.So there is a commitment on both sides and as for me wanting the ring..The main thing it would have changed is that th relationship would have become public at our work place..also I could tell my parents that we are living together once we set a

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Thu, 04-10-2008 - 9:22am

Hi Shrimpy,


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Registered: 10-30-2004
Thu, 04-10-2008 - 10:33am

I hope you get that magical moment soon.


When the time is right hopefully.

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Thu, 04-10-2008 - 4:26pm

Whether or not you know it, you have been an inspiration to me.

Cat
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Thu, 04-10-2008 - 4:32pm

We were together 6 years and lived together for almost 4 years before we got married.

Cat

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