Ever have one of those days...

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Ever have one of those days...
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:43am

...where you feel like it's all falling apart?

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:56am

Right there with ya Cat...sending lots of chocolate and cute fuzzy images your way...


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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 11:01am
Right with you there on #1. I can't wait until summer when we get a break from homework. I'm looking forward to playing hide-n-seek, tag, and catching fireflies instead.
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 11:36am

Hugs, Cat! And what a cute kitty in that other post!!!! Awwwww...


Anyway- I hear ya on the kids/housework/work juggle! It's a daily battle for most of us, I'm sure. I'm also looking forward to summer when we won't have to wake up with a deadline to get going. We can just be lazy and go if we want, camp out if we want. The daily stuff really does get in the way with sharing quality time. But comes summer also comes a break from each other when the kids go to visit their dad. I think we all need a break from each other, too!


I think that if the noncommunication aspect of your relationship bothers you, then you should bring it up. It could be a simple matter of "Love Languages" and he just doesn't realize how important it is to you (how much it means to you), to get some texts back from him now and then. Something that simple could keep you happy while he's gone... but he doesn't even know it. You might ask him if the texts you send to him- makes him feel good when he gets them. If he likes it when he knows you were thinking of him. And let him know that it would be nice to get some of those good feelings in return, with something as simple as a little text.


It's not like you're trying to change him or make him fake some messages to show you he cares. But if he truly cares- it wouldn't be a big deal to fit some of that in- IF he knew how much it meant to you. So have a talk and let him know your wants and needs.


Hope it all works out!


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:17pm

Hi Cat.

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:21pm

Very good point about the Love Languages, Shrimps.


Cat, I have the same feeling that time is speeding by, not exactly filled with Fun things or going

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 1:03pm

(((((Cat)))))


I'm sorry- I know you feel sad!!


It's normal to feel like that when you're in a new situation with your bf. It feels different and you feel a disconnect. My advice would be to talk to him this weekend- it does not have to be a heavy bring down conversation. More like telling him that you miss the connection and talking I think would be good. Don;t worry about the tears that will naturally flow! It's not about guilting him, just about speaking your truth. You miss him :o) I think he will understand?


I too know first hand how guys can get really focused on work or tasks and because they are not as comminication based (most of them) they might not even realize how you are feeling disconnected.


BE was so busy with an audit one week that he barely picked up the phone to even check in with me. I told him that I missed him but that I understood about his work pressure and asked if he would like to talk about work over that weekend. He did and de-pressurized. Then he made a point of stopping and just leaving brief messages for me at work now and then, which

~Pacific~
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 1:08pm

I've been feeling like maybe I'll talk to him this weekend but don't want to put more pressure on him either.

Cat
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 1:13pm

I just don't want to feel the emptiness in my gut that I feel right now.

~Pacific~
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 3:16pm

Now what?

Cat
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 3:49pm

I totally agree.


I would have sent that same message. I would ask for some time to talk..you need that. I can imagine that you feel disappointed about tonight.

~Pacific~

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