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| Thu, 01-11-2007 - 2:19pm |
I guess I didn't share this story about the last guy I met.... last week thursday I went to a bar.... I wasn't looking but when I was sitting at the bar, the guy sitting next to me started a conversation. Turns out we were the same age and we reminists for a couple hours about 80s movies, music, and tv. Turns out he has also been married twice and has 4 kids. But at the end of the night... He didn't ask for my phone number. And even though I heard my head say... "ask for his. you had a nice conversation all night." something said nah, if he doesn't ask for yours then that's that. He did ask me if I go there often, which i don't. And he walked me to my car saying, I hope I see you again... I was thinking... dummy, if you don't get my number we'll probably never see each other again.
Looks like I'm not as bold as I've been in the past.... even when I went out with my girl friend on Saturday.. I didn't meet anyone. Take that back, I did but no one that I was interested in... I was too chicken. And I noticed I was a little shy about making eye contact too. Am I loosing my touch...lol. NAH!!!

I think you did the right thing. To me he has 2 strikes - the 2 marriages and then being in a bar. Not asking for the phone number would be the third.
BUT it is surely nice for the attention for you - and the story for us. I would put him in the PIP file - potentially interesting person. I have a few of those myself.
I find that when they don't act on getting a way to contact me again, there is either a reason or they are not worth it.
Good to hear you are getting out there!
Yah, I have two thoughts that battle in my mind about a guy not asking for my number...
My first thought is (and this has turned out to be true many times) "he has a girlfriend." And my second is "give the guy a break." If he's really cute and I know for a fact I want to see him again... then I'll be bold....
If he's only so-so, and I only feel so-so about wanting to see him again, then I won't take the intiative. I guess the rational side takes over when I'm not blinded by good looks. LOL
I rarely meet anyone I'm interested in while at a bar, but I go for fun and to be with my friends when I go. Sometimes I end up having very nice conversations, but I don't go with the expectation that I'll meet someone.
I also think just getting out of the house and doing something you enjoy is important. You may not meet the right guy at a bar, the library, the store, wherever... but you definitely won't meet him if you're at home alone.
Glad you went and had a nice conversation, even if it's never anything else and you never see him again.
Moody
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