The Ex Files

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The Ex Files
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:16am

Hi to everyone-


I was reading Rebecca's post about the ex. I sooo feel for you, girl. Now I am a bit curious also about the

~Pacific~

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Registered: 01-05-2004
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:34am

Well, I would have to give my ex an A. He is a good dad, he is punctual, and he makes his child support payments on time. I really can't complain except that he just tells me what he is going to do and doesn't ask. For example, at the cub scouts meeting last night we talked about signing DS up for baseball again this year. He said that if he gets to coach then DS will play but if he doesn't get to coach, DS can look into another sport if he wants. At LEAST he ran this by me instead of just taking it upon himself to do it.

For the most part we get a long pretty well and DS seems to be fine with everything except he thinks it's more fun being with me. :) lol Of course at my house he doesn't have to compete with a baby sister....

Good question Pacific.

Jennifer

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:59am

For the most part we do ok.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 12:44pm

I love when you guys come up with great topics like this - pacific you have been on a good roll - was almost going to look for those jelly bean flavors in the store yesterday!!

My exh and I are getting along right now. BUT that doesn't mean by any stretch that we are best friends or all chummy. It means we have settled into our roles AND it means I accept him for who he is and I carry the lion's share of the load and look at that as though I am lucky to have it because it means I am the one who gets to spend time with our DS.

His schedule changes every week. This week the only night he is taking him is tonight and then he is back sometime next week. I won't find out next week's schedule until the weekend perhaps. When he takes DS he is wonderful to him. And he pays child support. I don't ask for anything else. And I do make him feel important.

I have learned to set boundaries and "that doesn't work for me" was my mantra for a long time. Now I think he knows to think about how one of his ideas or requests will affect me.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 1:07pm

I have 2 X's to deal with--craziness!!

April

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Registered: 09-01-2006
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 1:40pm

Great thread Pac-Sun!


My Ex is the one who went through a 'mid-life' crisis at age 36 (LOL!) and wanted to see just how green the grass was elsewhere.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 1:46pm

Good topic, Pac~Sun.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 1:51pm

The biggest problem we have is that I pay the kids' insurance through my company.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 2:17pm

Holy cow, Moon. Thank you for sharing this. I did not know about your ex or how he has/has not interacted with your girls. The threat to your DD14- how awful and no wonder she has set her limit and boundaries...yeah for her!


According to the counselor, DD is in charge of this relationship - she 'owns' it, and I am to stay out of it.

~Pacific~
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Registered: 09-01-2006
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 2:22pm

I live in Canada so medical bills are, thankfully, not an issue for us.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: pacific_sun
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 2:28pm

~Pacific~

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