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| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:16am |
Hi to everyone-
I was reading Rebecca's post about the ex. I sooo feel for you, girl. Now I am a bit curious also about the
| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:16am |
Hi to everyone-
I was reading Rebecca's post about the ex. I sooo feel for you, girl. Now I am a bit curious also about the
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Thanks, Rebecca.
I have to say though that as horrible as all of that sounds and feels to write down in a gross litany of complaints, I feel like the rest of you in that even though I am getting the lions share of everything BY FAR, it does mean I get to be with my son more and be the one to truly shape him and raise him the way I always wanted to and for that I am very grateful. I wish his Dad would stabilize but it doesnt seem likely. I have considered asking his parents to pay his child support but am not sure it is worth it to include them. We will probably head back to court this year to redo things so that they look somewhat accurate to what is actually going on instead of what he though he could do as we first split.
I am sad to say also that ever since my bf moved in, my X has been less and less present. I thought it might open his eyes to see another man interacting in a parenting role with his child for the first time but it seems to have done the opposite. I am just happy my son has a male role model who loves both of us.
even though I am getting the lions share of everything BY FAR, it does mean I get to be with my son more and be the one to truly shape him and raise him the way I always wanted to and for that I am very grateful.
You have very thoughtfully and eloquintly said what is a wonderful sentiment...a true silver lining. Thank you for sharing this.
Well Mr A plus just got another F in Reliability and Punctuality. DD just called me to say Dad's not there yet....again 15 minutes late already. Sigh. I know he's working nights and going to school, but still..I can't have my DD sit there alone waiting.
I guess I had this on the back of my mind, his escalating unreliability lately, hence the thread. I do appreciate he is better than what you have to deal with in TAZ. So
Are they in your life? Are they in your kid's lives? Are they involved? Is the relationship between you and him healthy as far as cooperation for the kids? Does he help with finances, and things like that? Or- is he 100 percent out of the picture? Or maybe you just wish he was?
I have three babies daddies.... although i was only married to two of them...
EX#1 - he has custody of my two oldest... we have an amicable arrangement now... i think because they are teenagers they have more say on when they want to come over (things are about to change after the move but it will work out). We aren't friends but we're not enemies anymore and only converse about visitation days/times and probably nothing else....
EX#2 - wasn't married to this one... he pays child support (for the most part)... we are amicable ... but he will often call to say he won't be picking up his child.... every now and then he'll complain about something... no big deal.
EX#3 - the psycho! I have a 5 yr NO CONTACT order (expiring in 2011) because of his criminal past, abusiveness, and drug addiction. I have sole custody of my two daughters with him. He only has supervised visits with his mom but only sees them a few times a year. Child Support Enforcement handles the child support and i'll see a few checks throughout the year (not much but it helps). I'm not bitter... just very grateful that i don't have to deal with him directly. I've let it go!!!
Forgiveness is a beautiful thing.
Loonbunny
I initiated my divorce after working on my marriage for two years.
Then there is me...
I am not going to be much into this, because it is a painful situation that only makes me see rage.
Hi, great questions!!
OMG! I am blamed for EVERYTHING. My childrens Dad's can do all wrong, but whoaaaaaa HEAVEN FORBID Mommy forgets ANYTHING! I'm basically burned to a stake then! I make sure that anything I promise is set through. That if I DO have to postpone something then it's only a postponement BUT NOT a promise broken. The children have gone through so many heartaches and empty promises that I give the last of my sweat to make sure they never have disappointment with me. However, I am human and if it does come up, they skin me alive. I am never allowed to make a mistake, I am super human to them. I get also blamed for anything or anything concerning mood swings or bad days. However, at the end of the day, I am loved like no other and I treasure the good, the bad and the ugly days. Time goes by so quickly that soon they will be gone and
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