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| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:16am |
Hi to everyone-
I was reading Rebecca's post about the ex. I sooo feel for you, girl. Now I am a bit curious also about the
| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:16am |
Hi to everyone-
I was reading Rebecca's post about the ex. I sooo feel for you, girl. Now I am a bit curious also about the
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It is difficult but I come acrossed this stigma all the time!
April
Believe me, in 7 years, if the words "kids" don't get them skid marking away, that sure does. AND you know what? It's true, within the first phone call or date, it always comes up somehow. There is no way around it and I always feel like a fool and my first thought is: HERE WE GO AGAIN!!!
It's only when I tell them that I chose my child over my marriage that I get a little understanding, but first you have to get that far and secondly, I get tired of the judgement. I didn't ask for it to happen, it just happened and yes, the first time I was maybe young and foolish, but the second time
I need to correct myself it was with my friend with THREE children from THREE different fathers that I was a bit taken aback.
Another way of approaching your whole background thing is to say you would rather not talk about such things so early in the relationship because they require understanding, compassion and getting to know you better.
I don't disagree.
Do men that have kids with more than one woman have this problem?
Of course there is the exception to every rule.
I dated a guy that did and was relieved that I didn't have to feel weird about my situation. I didn't judge him until I heard he had cheated and lied to his wife to have an affair and the affair became pregnant. :(
I have judged my girlfriend, because she has been married and divorced 4 times. Now together with another guy and gave up both of her children from two different fathers to be with him. Somewhere I fail to see how you can't be at fault somewhere along the lines. But again, maybe I'm being wrong and judgemental.
here's my story, great thread pac-sun!
Will be somewhat difficult to rate mine.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
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