Ex husband thinks he's my supreme ruler
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Ex husband thinks he's my supreme ruler
| Tue, 05-20-2008 - 9:11am |
It never fails when life is going well my ex has to step in and start in.
| Tue, 05-20-2008 - 9:11am |
It never fails when life is going well my ex has to step in and start in.
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I am sorry you are so stressed. Question for you - doesn't your divorce decree say he has to split those costs? Why wouldn't you go after him legally for the money?
As for the rest of the stuff - I think you need to somehow see that the stuff he gives DS is good for DS and not be resentful - because that will help you be less stressed - and to be happy the new wife is the one who has to be mommy and not you - at least she is being helpful with the kids and adding to their lives - could be much worse.
And I am very glad you said this:
"I told him that I could NOT call in sick because I had a meeting and it was HIS day. Then I told him that if he wanted to help take them to dentist and doctor appointments which I always have to take time off for then he can complain. I went on to discuss the $160 I had to spend at the dentist which half is his responsibility and I'll never get back from him."
GOOD stuff! Hang in there - it will all work out! How many kids do you share?
It is in our divorce decree, but it's hard for me to get the time off to take him back to court and he'll just blow off whatever he's told which he's done since the before the divorce papers were dry.
I hear ya on that ex crap, isysmoon! Mine is the same. He hasn't paid ANY child support so far this year, and when I saw his this past weekend, he was all excited about telling me that he is planning to trade in his truck (that is newer than the van I've had since before the divorce) for something else (brand new) and I just had to tune him out. What did he think- that I would be excited to hear that, or even WANTED to hear all about that?
He knows I'm dealing with a ton of foundation work on my house right now- and although that isn't HIS to pay for... the child support is- and he doesn't care! He just wants that new truck! Just like he wants every 2-3 yrs ever since I've known him!!!!! Who gets a new vehicle every 2-3 yrs?!?? And then has the audacity (odd-a$$-city) to whine to me about how he doesn't have any money!!!! He's made more road trips this year than I have!
I am just glad that he is an EX and not my responsibility anymore... but dang that I even got into it all to begin with. Stupid me!!!!! :-P
My ex is supposed to pay half the medical bills too- but he doesn't do that, either. And to bring anything up... he now pulls the "cancer-and-dying" card and it's pointless to try to talk to him.
Hugs to you about the ex-crap too... because I know how insane it can be! I do hope your DS has fun though. Congrats to him for making it out- and on up to High School! (scary!)
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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"I didn't say a word, I just gave my kid some money because I want him to have a good time" - this goes to show what a GREAT mom you are.
As for the sick day .. so sorry - if the kiddo is at HIS house & cant go to school, I say that falls on them. Let him call his MOMMY (Gramma) to stay with him!
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
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Hey Isysmoon - My heart goes out to you, it really does.
My ex at least pays for clothes and things for the kids.
A second summer job? ...that is the pits (although I did read about your second job and it sounds like a good way to go if the second job is needed.)
It's just tough to deal with, he's very narrow minded and it's not like I'm asking for money for me.
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