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Ex took son's souvenir
| Wed, 06-07-2006 - 8:35am |
Hey all,
I thought it might be time to introduce myself a bit. I have been divorced for 1 1/2 yrs. Left extremely abusive ex 3 years ago this week. I waited a long long time to start dating. I met the most wonderful man on eharmony in Jan. We have taken things very slowly getting to know each other and introduce kids etc... Last weekend we finally got everyone together at baseball game. My son got a banner thing. He was so excited he took it to show and tell (he is 7) The judge lets ex pick up kids everday until I get home from work. He does not work too much. Well, ex took banner. Not out of character for him. I know it is because my son told him that we all went to the game together. Ex never takes the kids anywhere- I was thinking of faxing and asking him to return banner. What do y'all think? THanks
I thought it might be time to introduce myself a bit. I have been divorced for 1 1/2 yrs. Left extremely abusive ex 3 years ago this week. I waited a long long time to start dating. I met the most wonderful man on eharmony in Jan. We have taken things very slowly getting to know each other and introduce kids etc... Last weekend we finally got everyone together at baseball game. My son got a banner thing. He was so excited he took it to show and tell (he is 7) The judge lets ex pick up kids everday until I get home from work. He does not work too much. Well, ex took banner. Not out of character for him. I know it is because my son told him that we all went to the game together. Ex never takes the kids anywhere- I was thinking of faxing and asking him to return banner. What do y'all think? THanks

Hi Bupcie,
Welcome to our board.
If I was you I would not say anything. And I would not send any show and tells again. The show and tells only make the exh feel jealous (mine is sometimes this way too) and I believe it is better to keep things smooth for the kids. I would explain the next time your DS wants to take something there that it is not a good idea because it will make his dad feel bad and he will just take it. We cannot control the actions of others but we can control what we do.
It is great that you have met someone special!! This sounds good - we hope you stay and participate and we always love to hear stories and details.
Hope this helps. I am sure you will hear more good advice from others, too.
I agree with West. Your son is the same age as mine. His dad would do something like that too. So, my son learned very early on to keep anything he wants to keep at home with me. If he goes to his dad's with it, there is a risk of it being taken away for good.
Forget the banner. Tell your son that it's too bad that his dad took the banner away (buy him another one if you can afford to do that and are so inclined). The next time he wants to take something to show and tell, convince him to take something that his dad won't take away.
Hi bupcie,
Welcome to the board.
I don't think you should ask for it back.
Dear Bupcie,
I'm going to provide a contrasting viewpoint.
Stephanie, CL of the Dating as a Single Parent board: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-p