Exactly what I need right now

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Exactly what I need right now
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 11:23pm

Tonight HN and I finally got to talk about Monday night without colleague or little people ears wondering what we are talking about. I practically inhaled a glass of wine as the phone rang and he admitted to having a beer before he dialed my number - we were both anxious, but all is good - at least good enough for the two of us and that's all that matters.

We talked about what happened on Monday night and whether or not it was a fluke. We decided that it wasn't a fluke (and that it was very good - all three times) but that it was probably a little too early. Regardless of whether or not we have sex again soon we both want to continue seeing each other. We confirmed that we enjoy spending time together and neither one of us is currently seeing anyone else. We made a deal that if either one of us decides that we feel the need for our relationship to be exclusive we will tell the other. Likewise, we promise to tell the other if there comes a time that we start seeing anyone else. Neither one of us knows when or if ever we would be ready for a long-term commitment, but we both want a "safe place" where we can enjoy doing things together and be patient in trying to figure out what it is that is going on between us. Maybe were just very good friends. . . maybe we're something more. We're not in a race to figure it all out. I feel great because I feel like there isn't any more awkwardness left - not in our conversation or in our physical closeness. I can't tell you how long it's going to last, but I do think we're going to have a lot of fun for as long as it does - months or decades - either way I won't be sorry.

We're going out tomorrow night. Have a great weekend!!!

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 6:56pm
Hi M2M, I am glad things are going well. Sounds like you are up front and honest. That too, is important. Especially to be sure you are protecting your health(safe sex-blah blah.) For me, I have not gotten up the courage to have more than a friend. For me, I wish I could just had a male friend to just talk to, share interest. I have gotten so used to my routine, I do not try to meet people(men). Truth is, I lost my confidence in general in dating. I am lonely, sometimes, but keep busy with work and my child and family. thanks for answering and keep in touch. have a great evening. Cartia
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 7:34pm

Cartia,

You always have such nice things to say. Hopefully being here will help you get some of your confidence back.

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 9:53am
HI, thanks, and thanks for reply. Have a great day. Cartia

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