the "exclusive talk"

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Registered: 02-23-2007
the "exclusive talk"
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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 12:00am

New Guy and I had the "talk" about being exclusive. Neither of us was really seeing anyone else (maybe a date here and there) but now we've agreed to not see anyone at all. We're still going to take things slowly but felt ready to make the out loud statement that we would be exclusive.

I've got so much going on right now (almost all of it good), it is nice to have someone to share my excitement with. It is also nice getting to be in the moment with him. He is so easy to talk to and I feel so relaxed with him.

I'm a little nervous about the physical stuff - It has been 13 years since I've been with someone new but I feel ready to take it a little further (looking forward to it is a better description). He has had no problem following my lead on this.

When he slept over a few weeks ago, I made it clear that it didn't mean sex. It was getting late and we were having such a good time, it just felt natural to invite him to stay. He had no issue with it and was glad I was making my boundaries clear. He said he didn't feel we were ready either and would have said no to staying over if I hadn't set the ground rules. We'll see where it goes.

That's my update. Hope everyone is having a good week.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 7:18am
I love to read updates like this. You are totally on the right track. Keep us posted and thanks for sharing a reason to smile this morning!
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 9:17am
YAY! Where is the confetti?!!! That is awesome! I think you are doing great with setting your boundaries, stating your feelings and moving along at a good pace. An even better indication is that Mr. NewGuy is following your lead. However, Mr. New Guy needs a New Name. So what's it going to be? :)
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Registered: 02-23-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 1:51pm
HMMMM, the nickname. Mr. Nice Eyes might be it. He's got really dreamy eyes and I melt a little when I look deeply into them - goodness how mushy is THAT!
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 3:00pm
Love the new name! Mr. Nice Eyes it is!