Excuse me, you're mad at ME?
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| Thu, 08-16-2007 - 10:26pm |
My former husband suspects that I am in a new relationship. When he asked me about it I said "I don't ask about your personal life, please don't ask about mine." He said he had the right to know about someone spending time with his kids. I told him (and this is true) that no one is spending time with his kids (I would have to be in a long term relationship and sure that it was going to continue to be before I introduced my kids to someone). I also told him that before I introduced the kids to anyone I would talk with him about it (as I would about anything that impacted our children).
So he says "Well, it may not be my business but I think it is a little soon for you to be dating."
EXCUSE ME? You started dating BEFORE we separated - it was the REASON we got separated. I had to get a restraining order against your GF after she threatened me and the kids (thank goodness she was stupid enough to leave messages on my voice mail for the convenience of the court system). You are the LAST person to be judging my love life.
Okay, I didn't say any of that to him. All I said was "You have a right to your opinion but since I don't value your judgement, I'll choose to ignore it." He hung up.
ARGH!!

You got one of those too, huh?!??
Mine was like that when we first got divorced. The divorce as FINAL, and I had already sold the old house and moved back up here with the kids to where I grew up. And THEN I started seeing someone- and he got all mad at ME for dating already!!!!
When HE was the one who was running around dating a co-worker (claiming they were "just friends"- yeah right) for at least 8 months, right in my face before the divorce was finalized. F*ck your double standard, mister!!!!!
I hated that awful time. I am SO thankful that all that venom has passed and things aren't that maddening anymore. I do hope that your ex will eventually CHILL OUT about it all, too. Sheesh!
Keep standing your ground, and keep telling him exactly what you've already said! Way to go!
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Dang, girl.
" Isn't there someplace we can send them all to live amongst themselves since they all seem to think alike?"..
Dr Phil's Man Camp.
or
Idiot Island, with no women, just Man Idiots. With no escape. That should do it.
"You have a right to your opinion but since I don't value your judgement, I'll choose to ignore it."
That, my dear, is the most classic line EVER!
I think we all need to add this to our phrase database and use it as needed.
Thank goodness my X never dared to say a word to me about dating anyone after he did the horrible acts that he did to me during our marriage.
You did an excellent JOB and I think we will DEFINITELY start using your line as a standard! It's awesome!
"You have a right to your opinion but since I don't value your judgement, I'll choose to ignore it."
"You have a right to your opinion but since I don't value your judgement, I'll choose to ignore it."
This is a Hall of Fame, slam-dunk line.
I agree with everyone else ... you were classy. Next time, call me and let do the unclassy talking for you because I'm ready to "drop kick" somebody!!! (LOL)
I know, I know, we don't promote violence up in here but men can take us there and back again. Thank God I've been trying to walk on the right path because I'd be in jail right about now. Some of these men aren't worth two pennies in pesos.
Just when you thought you had a treasure chest, you find out the treasure chest is full of junk. Okay, this is not about me.
Girlfriend, all praises to you the way you handle your business. You just go GURL!!!!!!!