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| Thu, 02-03-2005 - 12:13pm |
Recently I met this guy who has been telling me constantly how great I look and how much he likes my hair, what I'm wearing, ect.. So I took the plunge and asked him if he wanted to go get a drink sometime. He told me that he is seeing somebody, so I accepted his rejection gracefully, wished him luck and left it at that.
Yet, he has been going around asking questions about me and bringing me up to anybody who he sees and knows me. He even went looking for me at somebody else's home one night, which I thought was odd.
Don't worry ladies, I won't be asking this guy out again. But is it my imagination or is this strange?
In my past experience when somebody I'm not interested in romantically asks me out and I turn them down, it is rare I would care about bringing there name up in conversation or talking about them. I usually just let it go.

That is very strange and not normal at all. He sounds obsessive. Maybe he wants out of his current relationship and wants to keep tabs on you for a future thing. But, still it's too weird.
I would avoid him as much as possible and if anyone tells you that he is asking about you, I'd tell that person how weird you think it is.
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I don't know what possible motivation he could have here unless he thinks you'd be someone to set up with a friend of his? If it weren't for the asking questions about you, I would have chalked it up to harmless flirting. But that is strange.
He either is a little off or he's possibly thinking you'd be a good match with someone else, but I'm not sure guys play matchmaker like that too much??
Be careful!
Tara
Stalkers and weirdos have been known to have girlfriends....besides the women they stalk.
I would tell people you'd rather they NOT give him more information, either. If it's a coworker situation, you might even talk to your supervisor, just to give him/her a heads up on what's going on.
MAJOR RED FLAG!!!
ANY man who comes looking for you when you're ONLY in the flirtation stage (and obviously, he shouldn't even be there with you, given he's seeing someone) is someone to be on guard against.
I agree with previous posters. Make sure your friends/family know that this is happening and stay alert for a while. I'd knock off ANY friendly exchanges with him (flirtations/teasing) and make it clear that you're "movin' on to better pastures" since he's taken.
Do you work with this guy, or is he a neighbor? Where do you run into him?