When I read your title, I thought it was going to be a bittersweet story of FosterDog being all healed up, and the dog-daddy ready to take her home. A happy ending, though you might be sad to see her go. OMG, I didn't expect what really happened! I'm sorry you guys had to deal with all of that. But I know what you mean about the anger issues, and sometimes you find that there isn't much else you CAN do but back off.
I think you would know what I mean when I say that even though they don't have an @ss anymore... they can still BE an @ss. Sad to say.
((((((((hugs))))))))) and I do hope FosterDog is okay whereever she is.
~shrimpy
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
Oh soonee what a horribel thing for you all to go through. I agree with Moon - you did such an amazing thing from the start of the situation. I only wish the end could be prettier to remember but you did the best thing for everyone that was involved yesterday. BIG HUGS to you guys over there....Is everyone coping ok today with it?
((HUGS)) and more ((HUGS)). Wow, it is rough for you and for your children. You are truly in a tough spot, caring for your X, in your own home, while he goes through this brutal fight with Cancer. I do understand why you will, at times, have to tolerate awful behavior, just to prevent even more awful behavior. Really sorry about the dog. There isn't much else you can do, as there isn't more time to find another more suitable situation for her.
The fact your X has had the rage issue prior to his illness goes a long way in explaining to your children it is not only the cancer making him this way, and that such behavior is not acceptable. One of the worst moments of my life was my now S19, then 15, mouthing off to his brother, and when I told him we don't act like that in this family having him point out I accepted that kind of treatment from his father daily. Big wake up call for me.
OMG - what an ordeal. HUGS!! You poor thing!!!! You must be numb - but you did the right thing and the best that you could given the circumstances.
And yes, no wonder he is in the divorce boat. If that is not validation, I don't know what is. I am sure that foster dog will be okay - she looks so good now that she is likely to find another good owner. You must not think about that now - because you have more on your plate than anyone should have.
(((((((HUGS)))))))
~b~
(((HUGS)))
Steph
When I read your title, I thought it was going to be a bittersweet story of FosterDog being all healed up, and the dog-daddy ready to take her home. A happy ending, though you might be sad to see her go. OMG, I didn't expect what really happened! I'm sorry you guys had to deal with all of that. But I know what you mean about the anger issues, and sometimes you find that there isn't much else you CAN do but back off.
I think you would know what I mean when I say that even though they don't have an @ss anymore... they can still BE an @ss. Sad to say.
((((((((hugs))))))))) and I do hope FosterDog is okay whereever she is.
~shrimpy
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Soonee, you are an amazing person.
Yoda...((((Hugs)))) and of course...
((HUGS)) and more ((HUGS)).
Wow, it is rough for you and for your children. You are truly in a tough spot, caring for your X, in your own home, while he goes through this brutal fight with Cancer. I do understand why you will, at times, have to tolerate awful behavior, just to prevent even more awful behavior. Really sorry about the dog. There isn't much else you can do, as there isn't more time to find another more suitable situation for her.
The fact your X has had the rage issue prior to his illness goes a long way in explaining to your children it is not only the cancer making him this way, and that such behavior is not acceptable. One of the worst moments of my life was my now S19, then 15, mouthing off to his brother, and when I told him we don't act like that in this family having him point out I accepted that kind of treatment from his father daily. Big wake up call for me.
Be strong, as you well know, this too will pass.
QB
OMG - what an ordeal. HUGS!! You poor thing!!!! You must be numb - but you did the right thing and the best that you could given the circumstances.
And yes, no wonder he is in the divorce boat. If that is not validation, I don't know what is. I am sure that foster dog will be okay - she looks so good now that she is likely to find another good owner. You must not think about that now - because you have more on your plate than anyone should have.
I hope things quiet down!!
(edited for typo)
Edited 6/30/2008 8:44 pm ET by cl-west1745
Thanks for the sympathy, validation, and ice cream.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16