Feeling better

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Feeling better
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Fri, 10-17-2008 - 12:20am

Hi all,


thought i would share how much better i'm feeling. it's all about attitude. i realize now that i'm not in some competition trying to win MM's affections. I might still have a crush but now my attitude is that it is a gift. He doesnt' owe me anything in return. This has freed my mind and spirit, and i feel at peace once again (maybe til i see him...lol). But seriously, i've been able to get rid of the jealousy and worry by just saying "i am me. period". People get what they see and i'm not going to try to figure out what he wants from me or what others expect from me.

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In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 1:05am
So your new sitter is ok with the extra time for you to go to the meetups?
The boy

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In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 1:20am
she said she was fine with it. she's a late night person too and said she'll be up late. they are in bed by 9pm anyway. i'm not going to make it an every friday thing by any means.. but maybe twice a month. i'm
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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 1:31am
Well that's good. When ds was little, I had a teenager in my building that was happy to sit once a month while I went to the pub with some girlfriends. It was great fun, cheap and she didn't need a ride home!
The boy

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In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 2:46pm

That's wonderful, Loony!


Go and have fun. Be who you are! You are a wonderful person, and it makes no sense to bend who you are to try and fit MMs needs anyway. He'll respect you tremendously (as a friend or otherwise) when he sees that you stay true to who you are. A mom (and yes with responsibilities that you tend to!), a fun girl, a bright spirit!


Have a great evening!

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Registered: 03-19-2008
In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 10-18-2008 - 5:42pm

Loony,

I admire your strength. Its tough to be in the friend zone and bordering the edge of it. I've been there with RG. After a fun day with him he would drive away wave and smile. I would pound my head on the steering wheel.

Good for you for finding calm. Just enjoy him and keep your eyes open for whatever fish are out there.

Laurie

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In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 10-18-2008 - 6:52pm

thanks, it's always good to know i'm not alone. did you find it hard to remain friends?


i'm not sure if i feel better or worse after what he told me... about "liking me a lot"... but i refuse to overthink and i'm going to go with my gut... we are compatible but not right for each other. i think i'll be okay with it... I don't think either one of us is more into the other... just both on the same page.


plus, i have the single dad Chef to think about. that is, whenever i find myself thinking about MM, i'll turn my thoughts to Chef or just the possibility of someone new... and focus on all good thoughts.


in fact, i just called Libs, who has known Chef for some time and she said he's a good stable guy.... very involved with his daughters lives, etc. She would have told me if he was a player

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 10-18-2008 - 8:00pm

"she said, if you are looking for a stable relationship, he's a good one for that..."

So is that what you're looking for now?

Have you heard from the single dad again?

The boy

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In reply to: loonybunny
Sat, 10-18-2008 - 8:46pm
hmmmm. not looking for anything specific right now. i'm still taking things one day at a time. but i did like the boundary list from HJNTIY book.... that i posted in the "requirements" thread.