feeling the funk

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Registered: 10-09-2006
feeling the funk
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 10:25pm

Okay. So I was supposed to go to South Africa last Saturday, but my dad required emergency surgery so we canceled. I had to make a ten hour drive to take care of things because the American health care system is challenged. It was a hard week.

I came back and jumped back into work. It's been great. My new business has gotten an unbelievable response. A couple of bookings a lot of interest in cross marketing, it's all been good and I feel really proud of it all, but I'm feeling sad.

Since Christmas I haven't really been able to sort of greive the loss of my relationship. I've had a lot of great weeks, but I'm suddenly feeling really sad. I don't think I'll be dating any time soon.

I just needed to vent. I rarely feel depressed of sad, but I'm really feeling the hurt of my break up and I miss him. I wish to hell I didn't, but I do.

I hope you're all doing well...

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 9:08am

Hi Coco,

Sorry about your dad. Is he recovering well after his surgery?

I hope you start to feel better soon. It is probably the accumulation of things that is not helping with regard to missing your relationship. Your cancelled trip, your dad's surgery, you being so busy at work, and you're probably exhausted. Perhaps you can convince yourself that it is just a bad phase at the moment, and things will get better soon. That's what life is like, isn't it? Highs and Lows.

In the meantime, do you have the possibility of getting together with friends, or doing some activities on your own? A bit of time-out would do you the world of good, and would get you thinking about something else. Failing that, a night in with a lovely, warm bath, face pack, manicure and trashy magazine works wonders!

It WILL get better.

Clem xx

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 10:26am

This is why I love this board. It's great to hear from women who understand and can remind you where you are and where you're going to be. Thanks for the thoughts. I'm taking the day off and going to gym. I'm going to work out jacuzzi, sauna and maybe a little nap later. A day of decadence for me.

I will have to review a proposal today, but other than that I can afford to take some time. A very good friend of mine reminded me that I didn't get any time to digest the end of my relationship and feeling sad is just plain normal and if I want move on I need to allow myself days of sadnes.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 10:52am
That is just what you need - good for you to take a mental health break!
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 12:43pm

Coco, I'm sorry to hear about your dad.

It seems as if the funk is in the air. Take some time away from dating to grieve your loss. When you think you've healed, take some more time.

Concentrate not on what you've lost, but on what you have gained- independence, freedom, the power to do whatever YOU want. Then, DO IT.

Get in touch with old friends, meet new ones- do whatever you want without even thinking about men. Please, though, really think hard about what you want to do. I have recently made a list of all the things I want to do that I never made time for, thought I could afford, my exes didn't want me to do... and now I'm busy whittling away at that list. It's empowering to be doing these things, not to mention, they're all things I WANT to do.

Good luck, stick around, stay positive!

Moody, more upbeat today


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