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Feeling guilty!
| Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:08am |
Sometimes I wish I could clone myself. There are days that I feel like I am just too tired to make choices anymore.
I volunteered about a month ago to chaperone my youngest DD's field trip tomorrow. Then my 17 (DD) announces last night that her mock trial team is going to the county championships again this year. A card is drawn to see which school will be the prosecution and which will be the defense (each team has both and doesn't usually know until a day or two before the trial which will be participating). Of course we drew the defense card and my DD is a defense witness so she will be participating in this trial. Ouch!

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RATS!
I don't have any suggestions but I know the situation all too well. All of us have to juggle the priorities. It is unfortunate her father is such a self absorbed dork, but she knows that by now and that it has nothing to do with her self worth. It does matter that she knows you would be there if you could, and she really wouldn't want you to choose her over her sibling who you have already committed the day to. This situation has occurred so many times with my sons, but at least their dad would show up for our younger son. I don't know why he wouldn't show up for our older son, and that is a big part of the estrangement between the two of them.
You can only be in one place at a time. As long as you show an interest in the event and her experience with it, she'll know you care.
Queenbun
Darling I SOOOO am feeling you.
I just have to say a great big THANK YOU to all that have responded. Don't know why but reading each post just made my eyes wet. Hearing that you all understand and sympathize did it to me. NOT hearing that I was stupid for feeling bad or that I was making a mountain out of a mole hill is so reassuring.
You all made me feel like I was okay for feeling bad but prepared to move past it to still enjoy the field trip tomorrow.
I know I am a great Mom but sometimes even the best of us start to doubt ourselves and turning to this group CAN really help. Can't figure out why I spent so long lurking when I could have been posting and be on the receiving end of your wise and comforting words. Won't make that mistake again!! :-)
I was going to say vieotbut since soonee already suggested it....and it can't happen.....(((hugs))) to you..you are a great mom....kudos to you!! Love the mommy/me time. My ex and I changed our custody schedule so he could spend alone time with our d and I could spend alone time with our s.
I say celebrate her at dinner.....
~~Tiny
You said you couldn't stand to see my heart broken...so when you broke it, did you close your eyes?
~Karen˙·٠•●♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ
Sorry I'm jumping in so late!
Just wanted to send you my support and sympathy. Although I only have one, my DD still has to get disappointed from time to time when I can't attned something. I'm a full time working mom, and I can;t attend everything. It makes me feel bad, too- but she understands. And your DD will too. She KNOWs that would do anything you could to attend but this time you can't.
I think that what matters most and makes the biggest impact is your track record- you always attend things unless you absolutley can't- so missing one should be understandable.
Hugs! Wish we COULD clone ourselves. I'd have a work clone for sure!
Wish we COULD clone ourselves. I'd have a work clone for sure!
Definately on a beautiful day
No kidding!
It's beautiful out and I'm sitting here at work. Remember Multiplicity...the guy clones himself three times over. One does his job, one does housework and the other one is just kinda silly? Great movie!
I can so totally relate to your relationship with your ex!
Oh wow - that is a conundrum so to speak.
You have all sorts of good ideas and well wishes here. I was thinking if one of the other parents attending the debate can sort of be a surrogate step in parent for you for the day?
I guess this teaches the life lesson though - that not everyone can be there for you all the time and if you have a prior commitment like the field trip then you have to stick with that.
The only other thing I can add is that hopefully the dice is rolled fair where sometimes you would miss the other one's things as well? My mom always played favorite with my sister - running to all of her stuff because she was the little one and letting something go that was mine even if it was planned first. So hopefully you can find a way to keep it fair.
I do hope you enjoy your fieldtrip, though. That is nice of you to go the whole day. I think that is great because you can really have fun with all the kids and observe how they do and how the teachers are and stuff - and it is great to talk to the other parents.
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